24 October 2012

The (Im)personal Touch

In a recent episode of the guide to life (not), aka the Real Housewives of New York, cast member Sonya gets woken up in bed by her morning intern who hands Sonya her mobile phone with a full voicemail box. Sonya complains that her voicemail is always full because she can't be bothered to check her messages, then proceeds to change her voicemail message to tell people who call not to leave her a message, and to instead text or e-mail her.

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That the woman has a fleet of personal interns who do everything for her is neither here nor there. What really got me about that scene was that I first was aghast at her sheer laziness, but then ... I remembered that the vast majority of my own voicemails go unchecked for at least a day or two - because I hate checking them.

There's something more to-the-point about connecting with people nowadays through e-mail or text via over the phone. It is more impersonal, but that means you can bypass all the sometimes false niceties and just get down to it. There's none of this "hi, how are your kids, is your back better today, how did the [insert name of personal activity you don't really care about here] go" banter that you kind of feel like you have to go through when calling someone. There's no running around playing phone tag. There are no lost calls, bad connections.

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OK ... it is kind of ridiculous, isn't it? When did human interaction start becoming a nuisance? I remember getting mad at one of our coordinators a few years ago because we were on-site at a project and items were missing. She was supposed to contact the home office to get info and help locate items, we were running out of time, and I remember catching her texting her co-workers back home and I am pretty sure I freaked out. Call them and talk to someone. Get someone real time and get things settled now.

But uh - I really only check my voicemails because I can't stand seeing the little tape symbol on my phone.

Do you like how technology is streamlining communication or do you feel like we're losing out on the personal touch? Am I the only one who doesn't like checking voicemails?

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Sweater: F21 longline love (sim sweatshirt)
Skirt: J.Crew crinkle chiffon (worn here - sim, mini, as dress)
Necklace: F21 twisted rhinestone (worn here - sim, colored)
Bracelets: Asos, J.Crew (sim, sim, sim)
Shoes: c/o ShoeMint rosemary (worn here - sim, sim, point-toed, a steal)

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61 comments:

  1. I find myself struggling with this too! I hate checking voicemails, but sometimes just calling solves everything much quicker!

    Fizz and Frosting

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  2. First, I am SO glad to know that I am not the only one who saw that scene and was like, "WTF?!" Are you kidding me? Also I have yet to figure out why she needs interns and what the heck they do? Please let me know if you have figured it out.

    Second, I want that sweater like now.

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    1. I used to really like Sonya, I thought she was some quirky sexy socialite - this season, I'm thinking she's spoiled and kind of crazy! Her poor interns do everything for her! And it's not like she works, I don't know what they're interning for! ;o)

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  3. One of my biggest pet peeves is friends who use Facebook to tell news instead of actually telling me. I've had a friend say, "oh, didn't you see I was [getting married/having a baby/moving to a new city] on Facebook???" I haaate that. If it's big, tell me in person!! Or even by email or text!

    Love your chiffon skirt...did you wear this outfit to work? I have a chiffon dress that I hardly ever wear and I'm wondering if it's appropriate to wear to work or not...

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    1. I'm bad about FB, I log in once every few weeks, so hope no one tries to pass me any news through there!

      I often wear this chiffon skirt to work. I think due to the length and that the lining is just as long, it is perfectly work appropriate. I've also paired it with a blouse and blazer before for a business environment and I think it is appropriate, but just a bit feminine!

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  4. Interesting thoughts in this post! I know what you mean about texting versus calling- particularly in that situation when something is time-sensitive, I don't understand why some people are so averse to speaking on the phone to another person.

    Also, I adore your sweater- it's so cute!

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  5. it's nice when the voicemail is from a loved one (family, boyfriend or hubby) LOL! in business, i think it's important to make the initial contact a personal one. thereafter, email and text is fine. i hardly ever use my cell phone to talk anymore. i just don't feel like talking. :) great post lisa! gorgeous chiffon skirt. the color is so pretty.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  6. Ha! I don't mind checking my voicemail...I just hate the whole returning the phone call part. There are times for phone calls and time for texts or email...unfortunately, I have a few co-workers who do ALL of the above. One form is fine...I got it the first time :)

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    1. I used to have a co-worker who would send me an e-mail, then walk to my desk to tell me he just sent me an e-mail. Thanks, Mr. Obvious.

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  7. Awesome sweater--it reminds me of a railroad crossing sign! Did I miss that you were engaged??? Or do I need to re-learn my rights and lefts?

    T

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    1. Hehe, yes, I'm engaged, have been for a few months now. Thanks!

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  8. Lol! I have to echo with Rachel above. Please don't assume I check fb all the time (although I do sometimes but what if I didn't see it). Tell me the news as a friend.
    I hate checking vm too! My OCDness can't stand the symbol on my phone

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    1. I check my FB once every few weeks (I'm bad, I know), so if someone is trying to share news with me solely via FB - sorry, you're out of luck! ;oP

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  9. Haha this post made me laugh! I despise checking voicemails too, especially when my own mother leaves them! (and it's never anything important from her, always just "where are you? call me"). I agree that I'd rather text or email if it's someone that I don't feel like having a whole long conversation with.

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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  10. Oh guilty! I much prefer the text/email route, but also a part of that is my profession--always keep a record of everything! LOL I know that everyone is always complaining about how impersonal it is, but I don't really think so. I have some really great conversations with loved ones over text/email.

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    1. That's why I like e-mails too - then I can remember what said, but more importantly, I can remember what I said!

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  11. ..i just checked my work voicemails after i've been out. hah. even though i did put an out of office message on it... grrr...

    i still love snail mail. send me a letter/postcard and you'll make my day. sometimes it is hard to talk in person but its so much better - you can see/hear emotions.

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    1. Snail mail has become almost a luxury nowadays. That's why I love sending cards to my loved ones, because it feels like that extra step than just picking up a phone or sending an e-mail.

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  12. I love your graphic sweater! It looks so perfect with your flowy skirt!
    Meredith
    createthatoutfit.com

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  13. Love your LOVE sweater and that peach/pink bracelet is beautiful!
    Love
    Juneli from Fashionably Yours

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  14. Cute outfit! love the colour of your skirt :) And i only check my voicemail because I find the tape symbol annoying to!

    Sita xx
    http://buttonsapart.blogspot.co.uk

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  15. I'm kind of a scrooge when it comes to technology. I don't like answering calls and much prefer texting or email, haha. Like you said, they're short and to the point. What I dislike about phones/technology in general though, is that unless you know someone well, it's hard to pick up the nuances of jokes/sarcasam, etc. So for that, I much prefer talking and interacting in person rather than over the phone.

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    1. Yes, I've learned by now that my sarcasm really doesn't play well across e-mails or texts unless I load up on the :o) - and even then ...

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  16. Loving that bracelet -- by the way -- I shouted you out on my blog!

    http://what-i-bought-today-tc.blogspot.com/2012/10/blog-spiration.html?showComment=1351110734482#c2158323314140759709

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  17. So, so so with you! I really seriously think communication is getting harder, not easier. Which is such a conundrum considering all the technology meant to make it easier. Really love love love your sweater, Lisa!

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  18. I like that you're wearing a sweater that says "LOVE" in a post about the impersonal touch :)

    I confess that talking on the phone exhausts me, but many of our clients prefer phone and in-person, partly because English is not their first language. I do love a cut-to-the-chase email. My kids won't respond to anything other than texts.

    You watch Real Housewives? lol

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    1. I have a few friends who are starting to ask people not to e-mail them, just text them. For realz?

      And yes, Real Housewives - total guilty pleasure here!

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  19. Funny, I almost ordered that same top last week! I love it paired with that beautiful skirt!
    xo, amy
    www.dreamingincashmere.com

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  20. I totally remember this episode. Did you see the reunion when she says she uses her interns to blog about her smoky eyeshadow and how she does her hair. Seriously. I still love the show though :-) This is such a cute sweater!

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    1. The New York version is still my fave of the Real Housewives, though I can't stand Ramona and miss Bethanny! Beverly Hills runs a close second for me, because those ladies really are R I C H!

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  21. Oh man...I hate phones and voicemail! But yes, it is often a surprisingly direct way to reach someone or get an answer...(all this texting- poor Alexander Graham Bell must be so confused. I mean, imagine we used to be able to call someone and speak with them over long distances,hear each others voices in real time. Now we just type little garbled phrases back and forth at each other instead. How is this progress?!)

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  22. Awww posts like these are just so fun & refreshing....enables us to ponder on how mundane our lives are. I agree that the more advanced our technology gets, the farther away we get from warm interpersonal relationships! Anyways, that is such a cute sweater!!!

    REBECCA
    www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

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  23. Adorable outfit, wow, that sweater came from F21?

    Technology can help or hurt interactions, depending on how you use them. IMs are great for drop-in short chats when you are not just down the hallway from a colleague but texting people sitting at the same dinner table is weird and rude.

    I'm OK with voicemails and only annoyed because I get so many sales messages left.

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    1. I had folks who literally sat in cubes next to each other (i.e., sneeze and they'll bless you) who used to text each other. I was like, what the what?! I got ticked at some people down the row from me once and started faxing them!

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  24. I'm usually not a fan of words or phrases on my sweaters, but I really like yours. I love how you have paired it with the feminine skirt and pretty jewels! Looks so pretty:) xo

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    1. I like the graphic sweater trend but some are borderline too twee and cutesy!

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  25. Wow, I for sure thought this sweater was from ASOS. I really need to check Forever21 soon -it's fab!

    I hate checking voicemails, I hate talking on the phone, really I hate interacting with people (jk). I'm an introvert so texting and emailing was made for people like me. The best thing about text and emails is that I can take some time formulating a response whereas a phone call puts me on the spot, and I hate that :)

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    1. Hehe, I know what you mean, I can be the same way. E-mails keep my foot-in-mouth syndrome in check!

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  26. I have to confess that although I'm guilty of not checking my voice mail as often as I should, I do prefer a phone call one hundred times than sending an email, and one thousand times than a text! There aren't that many people that I call nowadays that don't get surprise when I say that I'm calling to ask how they are doing!
    I love that L-O-V-E sweater, it's funny how appropriate it goes with the topic of this post! And it looks really nice paired with that chiffon skirt!

    Jenny
    www.jensoutfitjournal.com



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    1. It's ironic, because I don't enjoy checking my own VMs, but when I leave them for others, I am thinking "you better check it!"

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  27. Your sweater is adorable.

    Oliviamoone.blogspot.com

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  28. super cute sweater!
    would love if you came and checked out my site...i am having a kate spade iphone giveaway!

    xoxo..beth

    www.fashiondotnow.com

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  29. i hate checking voicemails. mainly because it takes so "long" to navigate to the actual message. and then you have to listen to people ramble and grab a pen/paper to take down the msg. i prefer txt messages although i do agree they're more impersonal. but society is heading that way anyway. unfortunately.

    Maggie
    lovestylehappiness.blogspot.com

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  30. Sonya drives me nuts! But it's so true, the more technology there is, the less social we all seem to be. I hate checking my voicemail too, I'm totally guilty of that!

    By the way, I totally want that sweater. So very cute!

    xo

    Ashley

    Southern (California) Belle

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  31. I hate checking my voicemail too, but more for the reason that I get charged every time I check it, where as all other services on my phone are free, guess I'm cheap when it comes to that LOL.

    Love the outfit by the way, you look great x

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  32. Haha, I dislike that tape symbol as well. Most of my friends know that I don't like checking voicemail, and send everything via text or inbox if I am unreachable, especially if it's not that important. However, for business there's no getting around it, and I talk on the phone all of the time for immediate response ... Love this adorable outfit! /M

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  33. I love that sweater! I have a few things to return to F21 and now I know what I am going to use my store credit on...haha. I have actually caught myself getting angry at people for calling me.
    Tara
    Penniless Socialite
    Enter My October Giveway!

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  34. aww your LOVE sweater is sooo soo cute!! want!!! adorable!!

    hahah.. eh.. a strict low cal diet and exercise.. hahaha wish there was a secret!! because if there is nobodies told me about it hahah :p

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  35. i really, really love this outfit! it's casual but dressy at the same time. :)

    <3, Mimi

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  36. That outfit is such fun, the jumper is beyond cheery.

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  37. LOVE the sweater btw! It looks so warm, cozy and fun!

    I totally know what you mean about the annoying tape symbol. That's the reason why I check my voicemails. And plus, didn't Apple invent like... visual voicemail or something? Where is that on my iPhone?

    I used to hate texting people cuz I had a regular phone and it was super inconvenient. Now, I'm starting to warm up to it cuz with the text, you can see the communication visually. But I swear, if we are meeting up and you text me instead of CALL to ask "Where are you, I'm at the pole," or whatever, I might just kill someone.

    I think there are different functions that people should delegate phone calls and texting for... Urgent matters - phone call. Things that can wait - text.

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  38. Cute sweater! It goes great with your skirt!

    www.daisyraeboutique.com
    www.kacieskloset.blogspot.com

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  39. I have a confession to make: I have been known to delete voicemails without listening to them if I see who has called.

    Awful, I know. But I really, really dislike talking on the phone (unless personal conversation - I DO like conversing with my friends). So much opportunity for something to be lost in translation. Written communication allows the space for providing background info to establish context, or for appropriate brevity.

    Technology has certainly influenced communication by providing more options, and additional choices. I can choose to ignore, delete, etc. Whereas if my boss drops by my desk, ignoring him would be a CLM.

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