15 August 2012

Looking the Part

Thanks for commiserating with me about my closet vs wardrobe situation earlier this week, ladies. Glad to know (or should I say "sad to know" instead) that most of us don't have Carrie Bradshaw closets, which makes me feel better about the condition of my current wearables storage. I hope this will encourage me to make more efficient use of my space - so first, go through my stuff and start making "donate/sell" piles! And bags of "donate" stuff currently sitting in the garage? Actually donate them ...

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Before blogging, I was interested in fashion but was kind of shy about doing anything about it. I lived in jeans and if I needed to dress up, I always veered towards trousers - I think I had like three skirts and almost never wore them. I could put the pieces of wardrobe together into an outfit but I never considered the finishing touches - I literally had no accessories, except for two belts - in black and brown. Most of my shoes were closed-toe because my toes were not publicly acceptable. My fingernails were always chewed up. My purses were hand-me-downs and I never really thought about if they "went" with anything or if they looked cheap.

And fast forward to today and I think it is pretty apparent that I have now embraced all those things that I had formerly eschewed. I don't know what me previous adversion was to looking like I tried - maybe it was my inner tomboy rebelling?

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Nowadays, I love getting my nails done, it makes me feel put-together and pampered and look like I'm trying to look nice. I live in heels and flippy skirts. An outfit looks so bland now without some sort of jewelry or belting or something. Bags have to complement the outfit somehow.

Sure, you can just call it vanity but I enjoy looking better (forgive the frizzed out hair though - one step at a time, OK). Wearing skirts and heels and carrying purses make me move differently, act differently, and in turn, get treated differently. I don't just fall out of a car anymore or tumble down the stairs two steps at a time. I don't chew up my nails. I sit with my legs crossed. I (try) not to look like a Hunchback behind my computer. I'm a grown ass woman now so I think I shouldn't be embarassed about trying to look that way - or be treated as such. This is what I keep telling myself.

What do you do or wear that makes you feel especially ladylike? Do you think you act or get treated differently dependent on how you're dressed?

emerald leopard

Top: BR factory - check stores (sim, sim, sim)
Skirt: F21 pleated leopard chiffon (worn here - sim, sim, sim)
Necklace: Old Navy ethnic statement (worn here - sim, sim, sim-ish)
Bag: H&M - check stores (worn here - sim, sim, striped)
Bracelet: Glitterbox Jewelry via Etsy (worn here - sim, cord, pricey)
Belt: Asos metal keeper (worn here - sim, sim)
Shoes: Vince Camuto bello - on super-sale (worn here - same in mint, sim, sim)

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68 comments:

  1. Your love bracelet is adorable and I may just have to get one for myself! I love the neon clutch too!

    I'm a total girly girl but wearing heels makes me feel even more ladylike :) I've noticed if I'm wearing a really casual outfit, like jeans and a tee, people think I'm a high school student. When I'm more dressed up or wearing professional attire, my age doesn't get questioned. So I definitely think people treat people based on how they're dressed!

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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    1. I'm with you, and I think that is even more important for us because we not only look young but we're short in stature too. Makes it even more important to wear heels and look and act with confidence!

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  2. Stacy and Clinton (my ultimate style authority) area always telling women that changing the way they dress and take care of themselves will change the way they project onto the world, and will change how they feel about themselves, and will ultimately be a GOOD THING. I love how week after week that is proven correct.

    xox

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    1. I have to agree wholeheartedly with that theory and rule. I love Clinton. There's nothing like a pair of classy heels to say, Hey, I'm a Lady!!!

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    2. I loooove Stacy and Clinton, because they are so right most of the time - and a hoot, to boot! I live by their mantra of "things don't need to match, they can 'go.'"

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  3. You find all the best Etsy jewelry! I love the bracelet!!!

    Taylor

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  4. I think you're totally right - look the part and you'll get treated that way! I work in a business casual environment so although I'm tempted to throw on jeans and a top with no accessories I find that I enjoy putting together nicer outfits that look professional, even though my dress code is super relaxed. I didn't start out with many accessories either and I literally had NO heels (gasp) but now I find my outfits look bland if I don't have the perfect shoe or accessory to match. Love this outfit!

    Stephanie

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    1. High five - me too! We're on the same wavelength, girl!

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  5. I don't know about ladylike, but heels definitely give me a boost of confidence, especially if I'm standing in a room full of good-looking people. Idk what it is ... Wearing red lipstick also makes me feel instantly prettier, sexier, more grown up.

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    1. Heels make me feel all grown-up too - and I am trying with the brighter-hued lipsticks but every time I wear red, I always wonder if I look like I am trying too hard. And how much of it is actually on my lips versus my teeth, my cheek, my shirt collar ...

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  6. heels and a cute dress make me feel lady-like. i love this outfit - it's so cheerful!!

    xox P

    phiphisblog.com

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  7. Like you, I also had an aversion to looking like "I tried" to dress well or do all that girly stuff. For me, I think it was a fear of failure ... if I tried but was still judged by others as lacking, it was somehow worse than just wearing the same old stuff. Now, thankfully, I've figured out that it's fun to do these things! And getting weird looks from people ... it's not the end of the world. :) Wearing something pretty and flattering makes me stand up straighter and walk with more confidence.
    Love the bright colors plus the leopard print skirt! I chuckled sympathetically about your hair comment ... my hair is the last frontier to conquer, too.

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    1. If all else fails with the hair, put it up! ;o)

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  8. That clutch is the perfect accessorie for this outfit!

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  9. Like you, before I started blogging I was a MESS. Parts of me still are. (I'm a stress nail biter!) This entire outfit is adorable - I love how light and airy that skirt looks, and the necklace and clutch are fabulous!

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  10. First off...cute outfit. That skirt is adorable!!

    Now...This sounds a lot like me! I was a total tomboy and until a couple years ago I had never bought a dress or skirt unless I had a specific event I needed it for (wedding, whatever). Now I wear a dress almost everyday! I still have trouble accessorizing but try to remember to at least throw on a simple necklace or bracelet. I've never been a huge purse person and I absolutely HATE moving all my purse items from one to another so I probably downgrade my outfits by A LOT by carrying an older, semi-ratty purse. Baby steps. :o)

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    1. The purse thing is one area where my OCD personality has helped, haha. I pretty much have 3-4 pieces in each purse - my wallet, my phone, my camera (maybe) and my cosmetic bag that serves as the catchall for my reg purse randomness. Makes changing purses real easy for me now. Granted, you ladies don't get to see the Big McNasty of a laptop bag I also haul around ...

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  11. Thanks,for your lovely comment on my blog.<3
    Would you like to follow each other on BLOGLOVIN and GFC???
    Let me know...follow you then back.;-)

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  12. Grown ass woman! Hahaha! I love your love bracelet and have bookmarked that etsy site. Hopefully they'll make one in silver soon!

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    1. I could be making Bank if I had some wire, a pair of pliers and some talent! ;o)

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  13. Love your heels! And blogging has totally changed the way I look at outfits, although I have to admit that I've always been pretty girly. :)

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  14. I love wearing a pretty dress and some fabulous heels! I've always loved dressing up, but tend to wear little to no jewelry. I've been trying to branch out and really think about the accessories I put with each outfit! I've been so inspired by all my blogging friends.

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  15. Very pretty skirt, and the colors you incorporated in this outfit look great together!

    I agree: Blogging has helped me to step (way) outside my usual box of dressing. Now I have fun with clothes, while still staying comfy, confident, and true to my personal style. I think it's okay to look like you tried, just not like you tried too hard :-)

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  16. I love your style!!! Your skirt is amazing!! I'll be looking forward to a new post!!

    :)

    http://cravingforbarneys.com

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  17. I was the same way too! I've learned to use more color to make an outfit more fun and cute. Wearing make-up, heels, and a dress makes me feel more lady-like!

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    1. Granted I don't wear a lot of makeup mostly because I don't know how to apply most of it, but when I do put the time to do the whole powder, lashes, lipstick deal, I actually look like a grown-up and not some teenager!

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  18. I really really love your necklace! I was the same way. I think I just started wearing skirts or dresses recently. I don't like my legs and try to cover them lol. However, when I started revealing my legs and got compliments, I tend to wear them more often. Now, I am addicted and can care less how others think. I am just happy to be a girl!

    Smile On:)...Classy Pam

    http://classypam.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm with you. I used to be really shy about showing my legs - now I consider them one of my best assets!

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  19. Love your outfit, as usual:) I know exactly what you mean. I have always been interested in fashion and dressing well, I just didn't quite know how to go about it. Starting my blog was one way to kind of push myself forward. Like you, I used to pretty much wear only jeans/trousers. I remember having to go out and buy a dress for a wedding a few years back because I didn't own a single summertime dress. My how things have changed:)

    I think pearls make me feel put-together and a bit glamorous. I do think that I am treated differently based on what I'm wearing, but I think that has more to do with my confidence and the way I carry myself.

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    1. Definitely. When I look nice, I try hard not to be a (literal) slouch behind my desk or when I'm out. If I was hanging out in a sweatshirt, I might as well be napping under the desk, haha.

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  20. You are such a doll! I love the clutch, the necklace, the skirt, let's just say I love it all:) I definitely think you get treated differently on how you are dressed, unfortunately. I can tell SA's are usually more inclined to help me when I am gussied up as opposed to when I am in sweats with no make up. Not all the time, but sometimes.

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    1. Oh yeah - roll into a J.Crew store wearing their gear and they are all over you. They know who's there to check out new arrivals! ;o)

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  21. That skirt is fab!! I love it on you! Loving the necklace as well.:)
    -amy
    www.dreamingincashmere.com

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  22. I was the same - shy before blogging. I was a bad dresser too - still trying to get better. Blogging has helped me in so many ways.
    Mom Fitness Journal | Beauty and Fashion in Seattle | Cheap Makeup Reviews

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  23. i totally agree...if i feel good, i walk tall, feel confident and get treated differently than when i roll into a grocery store in cut-off jean shorts and a toddler stained tee with flip flops. ok...a bit extreme there but you know what i mean! =) blogging has completely changed the way i dress. i would have NEVER worn a necklace as large as my jcrew bubble necklaces before. and now it feels completely normal. LOVE your skirt, btw.

    xoxo, jenn
    the stylish housewife

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    1. Haha, I get what you mean. I was getting dressed the other day and I was looking over my jewelry, wishing I had "bigger" necklaces! Like bigger than the giant bib necklaces I already have?!

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  24. What a lovely outfit Lisa. The necklace is beautiful ( I can't believe it's Old Navy!?!) and really like the color of your clutch.

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    1. IMO, this was the one pretty necklace ON made. Some of their jewelry stuff now is a bit out there ...

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  25. I am loving the colours of this outfit. Sadly, mine is no Sex and the City closet either!

    Wish it is though!
     
    oxo,
     
    ML
    TWENTY YORK STREET
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  26. Loving the printed skirt, especially with the green top and purse! Picture perfect!

    Amy
    Leopard and Lillies

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  27. I think tomboy and lady can coexist, I am sure you looked lovely even than. But of course it is always better to make an effort, love the accessories!
    xx
    Simona
    www.lakenmoon.blogspot.com

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    1. Oh you wouldn't say that if you saw me in high school. I was REAL tomboy then! ;o)

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  28. Love this outfit! That skirt is gorgeous, and what pretty accessories!

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  29. You look fab!

    http://cravingforbarneys.com

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  30. This outfit is fabulous! I love the colors! I agree, if we look better, we feel better and that shows! So you go girl! Keep it up!
    Meredith
    www.createthatoutfit.com

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  31. When I wear heels, and pretty heels, not just my work heels (they are quite boring - need to work on that one), I feel ladylike.

    I used to not care about what I wore on Saturdays (since it's my free day and I don't have to look decent for work). But my husband was complaining since Monday - Friday, I put more into how I look. I've been putting on makeup, doing something with my hair and putting on a nice outfit and it makes me feel so much better!

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    1. I know what you mean! More often than not I will put more effort into work wear than weekend wear, and granted I may not need to be in heels and a suit or anything, I think I need to make a bit of more of an effort for those people I love the most!

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  32. I was talking a little about how I've changed since starting a blog today too. I'm drawn to ladylike, feminine pieces--I love pearls, bow details, and pink. I think "dressing up" in general always makes me feel more lady like.

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  33. You look great! Love the colors and the necklace! To feel more ladylike I always wear makeup (sometimes I don't when running errands) and heels. I have been treated poorly in retail stores for showing up in my running attire. Sad, but true.

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    1. This is probably all me, but I feel weird about being in really high-end stores, like I need to be dressed up or otherwise will appear like some poser. My sis is awesome, she'll go wherever in whatever - but she's usually attired like one of the JC catalog models and has the attitude to carry it!

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  34. Gorgeous Clutch :D I'm following

    Check my blog and follow me if you like

    xx

    www.sickbytrend.com

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  35. I would had never thought you were a tomboy before because you're definetely a very lady-like rocking girl now! In my opinion, your style is awesome and I could easily see you in any JC catalog any time! And this outfit is not exception, including that cute skirt, necklace and clutch!

    In my case, I definitely feel more lady-like when a wear heels. Nothing like a good pair of heels to jazz up an outfit!

    Jenny
    www.jensoutfitjournal.com

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  36. You look so adorable! Love the teal and animal print skirt combination! The bicolor clutch is so cool and that love bracelet is adorable dear, Following you on bloglovin. Lets keep in touch!
    www.girllilikoi.com

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  37. You look fabulous. I really love the clutch and the necklace.

    www.justpatience.com

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  38. Love the clutch- I actually did a DIY fabric collage project with that same clutch from H&M! :)
    :)
    Allison
    A's Fashion Files

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  39. I get so inspired by bloggers like yourself that I find myself emulating many of your outfits. Now, as I grow more confident with my own pairings of patterns or bright pops up color, I feel especially lady-like and grown up when I can mix in a really luxury handbag with something simple like a shift dress from Old Navy. Somehow, just having that one fabulous piece elevates the rest of your outfit and makes you look like a million bucks...without spending the million! (okay, maybe a very small percentage of the million! LOL)

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  40. Love this outfit! Those shoes are gorgeous... what an unbelievable sale price... wish they still had them in my size! Thanks for stopping by my blog... so glad to have discovered yours! :D

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  41. Love the leopard and teal combo and the pops of coral look amazing with it!
    Well, I especially love the fact that when I dress up , even strangers come up and compliment me! I mean who doesn't like to be complimented! Most of the times, though, I feel out of the place as the official uniform here in the mid-west is jeans and sweat shirt!!
    Btw, thanks a lot for stopping by and commenting! you have an amazing blog and I'm you're new follower!
    Love
    Juneli from Fashionably Yours

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  42. I love skirts for work-especially with different colored or textured tights.

    I can't seem to give up my "play clothes," though-my patterned and crayon-colored jeans.

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  43. I love your attitude! I think so many bloggers can relate! And I've got to ask what's on your nails? Love that color!
    PS nice blog, I'm a new follower!

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    1. Thanks, Lily!

      I don't know the color for sure since I don't have the bottle, but I think it is either Essie Ballet Slippers or Pop Art Pink. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful!

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  44. I love fashion blogging because it's helped bring out my creativity and developed my style! It's certainly brought you along too, I just love this outfit :) It's perfectly chic and beautiful. Cute clutch and necklace!

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  45. amazing photos!
    wanna follow each other?
    uuum...yeah.

    cheers!
    http://fashion-babel.blogspot.com

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  46. I love how you've accessorised this outfit! The shoes are gorgeous and the love bracelet is such a pretty little piece to have <3

    Anna @ FEED ME NANA xoxo

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  47. Between your skirt and your shoes I am IN LOVE with this outfit! You look amazing!

    XO
    www.pearlsandpaws.blogspot.com

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  48. Very cute outfit love your skirt, bracelet and clutch! I think I need similar pieces in my wardrobe.

    I guess whenever I wear a statement necklace I feel ladylike.

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