31 July 2012

This is Getting Old ...

So I was messing with the perpetual bird's nest that is my hair the other day when I saw something that caused me some alarm - a lone white hair, about four inches long and standing defiantly straight up in the air.

Which in my vanity made my stomach do a somersault because not only did this mean I may start popping out white hairs willy nilly now, but they are going to be crazy Albert Einstein white hairs, not shimmery smooth silver fox-type locks. So that white sucker was immediately exorcised from my head and for the following few days, I  vigilantly had been combing through my hair looking for other wiry-white vagrants.

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Suffice it to say, I'm in dire fear of getting older. I am pretty sure my chances of aging gracefully are next to nil, as I'm convinced wrinkles and age spots will decide to join forces with my current freckles and my already-coarse dark hair is going to be overgrown by wiry crazy white locks.

I know it is vain of me to be worried about how I look when it comes to getting older - I know I should accept the inevitable and do what I can to maintain a strong functioning body over defeating crow's feet. It's not like I depend on my looks to make a living or think I'm some great beauty by any means. But a girl can't help what she feels sometimes and one of my big fears of getting older is looking old.

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However, I don't want you thinking that I'm sitting here like the Evil Queen dreaming up ways to suck out the youthfulness from young virgins so I can maintain my looks. There are actually many things I enjoy about getting older - like knowing more things. Having life experiences. Always learning, observing. Being more accepting of who I am, vainglorious or not. And eventually, knowing I am cool and quirky regardless of what others think and how many white hairs may be on my head or wrinkles around my eyes.

What do you fear about getting older? What are you actually looking forward to about it? And what have you experienced so far with your increasing years that you actually found you don't mind?

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Top: F21 (sim, sim, sim, simpler, solid, solid, solid)
Skirt: J.Crew crinkle chiffon (worn here - sim, mini, pleated, as evening gown)
Bracelets: J.Crew enamel & F21 rhinestone (sim, silver, sim, giraffe)
Shoes: Vince Camuto bello (worn here - same in mint, sim, brown)

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71 comments:

  1. I think my biggest fear about getting older is not how my face looks (well, okay, maybe that, too) but my body getting out of shape. especially after bearing children. With the husband and I being one of the last ones in our circle of friends to NOT have children yet, we have the advantage of seeing how our peers deal w/ age and parenthood. I know it doesn't have to be like this, but honestly, our peers don't make either attractive. For sure, we will have children, and I know it's stressful, but I never want to use that as an excuse to stop doing things for myself. I guess that's my biggest worry...that I'll change and let myself go and just not CARE.
    Sorry about the rant. Lol. I'm pretty passionate about NOT letting myself go.

    Oh, and I've been finding pesky white hairs in my dark, dark hair more and more, lately. I actually don't mind. I'm hoping it ages me a few more years, so I'll actually look more my age, rather than a high schooler:)

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    1. I may totally become one of those moms who just lets it all go - though I don't want to! My big sis is a working mom and even with a young son now, she is still chic and sleek - with a well-dressed boy to boot!

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  2. hah yes i think we all fear that right? everyone wants to look nice for as long as they can! the print on the top is so cute

    -Jessica
    http://www.jumpintopuddles.com

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  3. I have light hair, so I fear there are gray hairs lurking in there. However, out of sight, out of mind.

    Tara
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    1. I totally can't see the back of my head (obvi, haha) so who knows what's going on back there. Shoot, I could have a cluster of white hairs back there - who knows!

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  4. I have the same fear as you. I'm OBSESSED with pulling grey hair(thankfully they only pop up not too often, well, at least for now....) I can stand in front of the mirror picking through my hair, armed with a tweezer, whenever I see one, I pull it out. Yes, when we have dark hair, grey hair sticks out.

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    1. This is probably the stupidest question ever, but do eyebrows and lashes turn grey? That'd freak me out!

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  5. To be honest when I think of getting old I think of it as a happy thing but 2 years ago (I just turned 26, mind you) I realized my greys were starting to come in and I pretty much freaked out (on the verge of tears). I've come to terms with it and decided not to dye my hair at all. My hair is still dark brown but it has a few strings of wisdom here and there and I'm ok with it now.

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    1. Stacy London, one of the hosts for the show "What Not to Wear" doesn't dye her hair (or at least, didn't used to) and she has this thick gorgeous main of black glossy hair that had streaks of silver through it. I fear if that were me, I'd look witchy, but on her, she rocked it and it didn't make her look older or anything.

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  6. ..i have a lone white hair that grows out on my forehead and back into my bangs. it's horrible.

    i donno. i guess i'm scared of losing people as i age.

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    1. OMG. I, too, have that one random lone white hair that GROWS OUT OF MY FOREHEAD. WTF? It's not always there and when it is, it's like it grows within the hour. I pluck that sucker out so fast ...

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  7. Your giraffe print is so adorable I can't get over it! And I, too, live in fear of looking old. I've got the creams going every night and every white hair is immediately yanked!
    --Vivienne

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    1. My mom started me on Olay products and I adore them - plus they don't cost an arm and leg like the department store brands. However, my big sis used Shiseido, and I must admit, their stuff just feels so nice going on ...

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  8. That giraffe print top is TOO cute!

    I haven't found any grey hairs yet (thank goodness) but my older sister has been dying her hair for years already so that can't bode well for me. Many people still think I'm in high school so I'm hoping that whole looking younger than my age thing sticks around for quite a while :)

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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    1. I am riding on the same wave as you, sister! ;o)

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  9. I really, really love this skirt. It's so girlie & looks so comfy. Love both ways you styled it.

    Ugh..don't even get me started on fears of growing older. There are so many. I cut bangs this year because I got tired of seeing the wrinkles in my forehead. Unfortunately, I'm still not very good at styling them so I walk around with f*ed up-looking bangs most of the time. Still better than those damn wrinkles.

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    1. Hahah, I live in perpetual should I/shouldn't I regarding bangs, so for literally years now, I have these long-ish bands that are long enough to brush aside (thus defeating the purpose of bangs), yet too short to pull behind my ear (thus getting in all sorts of way). Sigh.

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  10. Cute outfit and I love the bracelets!

    www.fashionpastiche.com

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  11. you are so cute!!! you look so young!!! my hairs been turning white since I was in my early 20's so I guess it doesn't really phase me haha! Don't worry you look super duper young and you have asian genes!!

    love your this outfit! the pink skirt is so so cute!

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    1. Girl, you've got such long lovely locks, there could be on grey in them!

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  12. I don't think a lone white hair will make you age any quicker. I hope not anyway, because I've had some whites and grays for a few years now. :/

    You are beautiful, and you will always be beautiful no matter your age. I believe you WILL age gracefully, regardless of what your hair or skin do.

    You're stunning. Own it. :)

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    1. Thanks, Melissa. I hope as I get older, I'll get wiser and stop sweating the small stuff! (Though unfortunately not small to me now ...)

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  13. Your outfit reminds me of a (girly) safari - the giraffe top and tiger bracelet are so much fun. :)
    Hmm, both of my parents went noticeably white very young (by the time they were 30), so I'm doing well comparatively. I do have quite a few white hairs but so far I've been managing by pulling them out. I hate the squiggly coarse ones, too!

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    1. I know! I am going to get white hair - I get it. But why do they have to be crazy-like?!

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  14. I love the print of your top! I figure as long as I'm highlighting my hair, maybe I just won't notice when I start to get gray hair :)

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    1. Hahah, that's what I tell my stylist when I get my hair done. Pull it or highlight it, just don't tell me!

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  15. girl...i feel ya. i have had grey hair since i was 21! but since i had my son...i swear to you that i am like 50% grey now. and it SUCKS! it reminds me of my mortality daily. i know that sounds shallow but it really does scare me! i also have the crazy wirey curly-ish grey hair. of course i didn't get the nice silver soft hair my grandma had. oh, and i have more grey hair than my husband who is 10 years older than me. sheesh. your blog posts always get me going...ha ha!

    xoxo, jenn
    the stylish housewife

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    1. Shoot, at least is more socially acceptable for women to get their hair highlighted or colored. Though at what point do you gracefull go from covering up the greys all the time, to just letting them all hang out and becoming Silver Fox? ;o)

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  16. Lisa you look wonderful in this outfit. I love the whole look - especially the skirt.

    You're lucky that you only found one gray hair. I've had gray hair since I was 18 years old and I hate it. I'm constantly reminded that I'm getting older when my roots are showing. If I didn't dye my hair I would say that more than 50% of my hair would be gray. One thing that I'm not looking forward to is wrinkles - when those come in then I'll start freaking out. Until then, I'll just continue to dye my hair each month.

    Natasha @ Moody Girl In Style

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    1. I always tell myself that I don't think I'll ever get Botox or anything like that done ... but I'm not making any promises because who knows how I'll react then!

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  17. Only thing I am grateful about aging is my skin has a lot less breakouts and pimples are in my 30's and 20's.

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    1. That is so true. Though a big one occasionally likes to rear it's ugly head on my face sometimes, just to remind me that I have no control, haha.

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  18. Gorgeous skirt.
    Very cute outfit, prefect accessories, soooo pretty <3
    * STYLE ID NET *
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  19. Lisa- you taught me a new word today: vainglorious. I'm very excited about that! ;)
    Ugh. Getting old. I was working with some clients that are employed with an assisted living/hospice care facility and some of their stories had me frantically searching for the Fountain of Youth. Not necessarily for fear of wrinkles or spots, but for fear of losing independence and agility. Eeek!

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    1. My dad's in retirement and he's totally one of those can't-sit-still type of people. I hate to think of what he'd do once he becomes too old to drive himself - I pray that he still has loads of years before that time comes!

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  20. What an adorable outfit! LOVE the mix of animals and prints! You look so pretty!

    xo Jenny
    www.crazystylelove.com

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  21. Your outfit is so gorgeous!! I love the print on your top & the color of your skirt is so pretty!!
    :)
    Allison

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  22. Thirty. I've never had a problem with anything age related--my husband has found gray hairs hiding between my blonde highlights for years, I'm terrified of scalpels and needles so I'm not planning on having any plastic surgery--but there's something about thirty that I'm afraid of. I think it's because soon I'll only be two years away, and I still feel 18 most of the time. How can I be 30 when I'm only 18?

    T

    ohwelltatslife.blogspot.com

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    1. Shoot, girl, I still say stuff like "when I grow up" and when people talk about the 1990s, I'm all like "oh that way only 10 years ago" - nope!

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  23. The only thing good about aging is I feel so much more wise now in my mid-30's than I did in my mid 20's. Other than that I really don't like getting older! My 30's are flying by, probably because I have children now. But all I can do is try to be the best, most fabulous version of me that I can be!

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  24. Not looking forward to sagging skin (eeep) for sure, but hoping my Asian genes will kick in full force and help me out a bit hehe... cute print on the top, like it a lot!:)

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    1. There's this cute cartoon I saw somewhere about Asian women's aging cycle - we are all going to look youthful and trim all the way through menopause. Then - BAM - everything catches up to us all at once, we gain 30lbs and lose 3-4 inches of height. ;o)

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  25. I keep watching for grey hairs, because I know my Mom had them when she was pretty young, I don't know how I would feel if I did find them. I love your bracelets, they are so pretty!

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  26. I am getting more grey hairs then I can count, blame the stresses. I feel I have to color my hair every month now, because it's so noticeable adn teher are so many. Sad, sad, sad.. I do like that I understand people better now that i am older, adn I have stronger values adn more patience. But I wish I kept my darn hair unchanged, and I want my metabolism back, and a skin without sagd adn wrinkles. I just don't think the nature was smart on this- if I get older and wiser I should look better not worse, right?

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    1. I would love my metabolism from college. And shoot, my willpower too. Eat all I want without gaining an ounce. And if I do feel a little bloated? Just cut back for a few days. Now I'm all like, cut back - what, no!

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  27. Thank you for visiting my blog! You are absolutely adorable-- I'm your newest follower :) xoxo

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  28. Love the outfit! Thanks for stopping by my blog and for your comments!

    xx Amy

    Leopard and Lillies

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  29. LOL - I have had stupid white hairs springing up like crazy over the last few years - I have been coloring my hair for ages, and this is one of the reasons why. It stinks! I think Asians tend to age a little better than the norm so I am hoping good genes will help me stay younger looking. I think what I hate most about getting older is being more tired. I feel like a little kid sometimes because when my routine is broken I am all out of sorts.

    love the print on your blouse :)

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    1. I had a friend throw out his back a few months ago and I'm like, we're about the same age, you are entirely too young to be throwing out your back, this is not a good sign!

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  30. such a stunning skirt! love the color!

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  31. Aww, your post is *so* relatable! You hit it on the head as far as (I think) a lot of women feel. I don't want to be vain about it, and I'm not the one who will be turning to cosmetic "procedures," yet at the same time, I don't want to age disgracefully.

    I'm turning 32 soon, and the wrinkles that used to play peek-a-boo with me since my thirtieth are now sadly here to stay. Sometimes I make faces in the mirror to try and discover how I invited those wrinkles and think "Well, I hope it was from a happy face, rather than a sad one..."

    Anyway, I think we all worry about it. Though I never want to repeat any other decade. I feel better than I ever have in my 30s in most ways, but I don't want to get uglified, either.

    Then sometimes, I see women in their 90s (my bf's grandmother) someone whom I am sure never worried about wrinkles, or spent tons on creams and potions, and I think-man, that attitude, that joy and peace...in your 90s...I want that. Hopefully by then, how I used to look will only be a good memory.

    Keep this up, Lisa, and you'll be there too. Love the thoughts you post on here. ;)
    P.S. Great outfit!

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    1. My mom is in retirement and she could not give a second thought to what she looks like, as long as she is clean and neat. Plus the woman puts lotion on her face and that's it!
      I guess as we get older, we'll stop sweating the "small stuff" like grey hairs or wrinkles - but it sure doesn't seem small right now, haha.

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  32. This outfit is amazing first of all! And I think we can all relate about the aging thing. Growing up is scary, just like I wrote about the other day! We face so many more challenges, including beginning to look older. The biggest thing I've noticed is that my metabolism is finally slowing down, which means I'm going to have to work even harder to maintain my body.

    Every girl wants to age gracefully of course, I don't think it's vain at all to want that. Your appearance is a huge part of feeling youthful, so once that starts to go it can be another reminder that our time here is limited and we're getting older.

    I wouldn't change anything and I agree with you, I feel so much wiser and have learned so much from becoming older/becoming adult. Don't let that 1 hair get you down. :)

    Stephanie
    http://twenty-somethingblog.com

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    1. Oh to have my college metabolism back, sigh .... ;o)

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  33. Amaazing blog and I really love it.

    Very nice photos :))



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  34. Oh man, I found my THIRD gray hair yesterday. Yes they have all been yanked because I too seem to be getting the sproingy kind. Blech.

    My husband has a gray patch, of course all the silvery kind that blends right in with the rest of his hair. Curse him.

    (wandered over here from Another Anthro Blogger.)

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    1. Thanks, Anth. My BF has some greys coming in (his dad went prematurely grey), but he's got light hair anyways, so unless you look really carefully, it just looks blonde. Darn him, because obviously for me, one grey hair reads like a giant "I'm going grey" billboard on my dark hair.

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  35. LOL - I'm dreading my first gray! Thanks for swinging by my blog and commenting - glad I found yours in return - you have such a pretty, feminine style! New follower here. :)

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  36. Well, first your jewlery is fabulous! The top and girly skirt are perfect together.

    Second, getting gray hair has been awful for me. It started when I was 18 (I am in my mid 30s) and I have to dye my hair out of necessity. One thing that I love about getting older though is gaining more confidence and realizing what works for me and not worrying about what everyone else thinks. Heather

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    1. I totally agree with your last sentence. I can notice that my "I care what you think" level definitely has been going down as I get older/wiser. Doesn't mean I'll just do all as I please, but I am starting to really recognize whose opinions matter vs the big "NO1CURR". ;o)

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  37. LOVE that F21 top! How fun and playful :)
    And I know what you mean about finding those gray hairs and kinda freaking out. I never used to apply night cream, but now that I am in my 30's I am kinda obsessive about it. I try not to think of it as being vain...more just "self-care" :)

    XO - Marion

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  38. Love the skirt! It's mature yet flirty and fun. =)

    I think I'm more worried about wrinkles! I just started spending some real money on skincare...aka going to Sephora instead of Walgreens to get my moisturizer and facial cleanser.

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  39. I'm finally catching up on blog reading and I got to say Lisa - loving all your looks! All the colors, accessories, etc. . always look lovely and chic!

    As for getting old - like you I'm deathly afraid. And then when you take pictures you stare at yourself and analyze even more :). I hope to age gracefully and I'm sure at the site of one gray hair I might cry for a day or two :)

    Red Soles and Red Wine

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  40. Ohhh love that pink skirt!
    I've noticed a strange rogue white hair that keeps popping up, but I'm not too concerned yet. I haven't had enough life experiences for grey hair.

    Chic on the Cheap

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  41. You know I'm a fool for a bow-tie blouse. Love yours! I also know if I go on the hunt for it at our local Forever 21, I'll end up pulling out all my own hair in frustration trying to find the darn thing in the store :o

    I've been pulling out random white "antennae" hairs for a decade, so do not be alarmed, young whippersnapper.

    My biggest fear of aging is curvature of the spine, seriously. I have never been more aware of my own bad posture in my life, and do not want that hump associated with the very elderly. So I've been doing back exercises, continuously reminding myself to sit/stand up straight, and using my blogger pics as a way to keep me on my toes. There's nothing like a bunch of shots with bad posture to make you realize it's a problem.

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  42. I feel ya on the gray hair/getting older thing - I get TOTALLY freaked out when I find a stray...yuck! But your outfit is fabulous - love that skirt and the animal print skirt is too cute :)

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  43. I love this outfit and want every piece, but I think I'll go for the shoes. Do they run true to size because I'm thinking about getting a 8.5 in the teal?

    btw, I love gray hair! I know weird, but I look at the women in my family and I don't worry about aging. You look wonderful so you shouldn't worry either.

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  44. Yes, I have several pairs of Vince Camutos and found them all pretty TTS so far in my experience. The insoles are padded but they are HIGH and without a platform, so sometimes the balls of my feet ache a bit after wearing them around a day. The chunky heel and ankle strap keep the shoes pretty steady though. Hope this helps!

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  45. I am super behind on blogs - gone for a week's vacation and look at all the posts I have missed! Well, I am with you on the white hairs. I noticed the first couple white hairs about 5 years ago, and now have to check every so often. I get a few every 4 or 5 months or so. It's a pain but I tell myself, at least I am not yet at the point where I have to dye my hair.

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