11 May 2012

Sizing Up the Citrus and Cherries

Even though being short never particularly bothered me when I was growing up, I think we’ve all been instilled in our brains since a young age that size does matter. (Remember elementary school and how the teacher would always line us up by size – shorties in the front, bean poles in the back?)

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Height didn’t really play a role in my life until about junior high – two BFFs of mine were especially gifted in the stature department, so naturally they looked older than their age. Our school was in the same walking path as the local high school, so it wasn't uncommon for my pals to run into (and get hit on) by older guys while my poorly attired little self was mostly ignored. I was naturally a bit hurt since I was getting into the phase of actually liking boys at that time, but I wasn't jealous of my gal pals too because though they may have looked 16, inside lurked two awkward gangly eighth graders.

And then through junior high and beyond, people around me started outpacing me in the vertical growth department. I often felt talked down to because, well, most people had to look down to talk to me. Pics of me with my pals made me blanch because I was always the awkward short person in them. Going shopping in stores was a lesson in patience since obviously most pants needed to be hemmed. I sometimes felt like I had to prove something because though I may be little in stature, I wanted to show people that can keep up physically - I’m strong enough to carry those boxes, creative enough reach those containers. I use "creative" because it certainly isn't like I can just reach the top shelf of anything ...

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I obviously am not a representative for taller than average people but I understand it can’t be easy either. I have extremely tall cousins – seriously, everyone on my dad’s side of the family, except my dad, is like six feet tall at least – and I know that they always got the “you should be playing basketball - do you know Yao Ming?” comments, or found it hard to get dates with guys who were taller and/or not intimidated by their size, or couldn’t find anything long enough for them to wear.

Height is a not an easy thing sometimes and fortunately or not, we’ve all got to live with and learn to love the hand that we’re dealt. How do I deal with my shortness nowadays? Platform heels, anyone? That, and my resignation realization that there’s no way I’m going to be any taller, so 5’2” it is - love it or leave it, self.

Have you ever felt limited because of your stature? Do you think you've ever been treated differently because you're "too short" or "too tall?"

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Dress: Boden glamourous maxi (sim halter, strapless, solid, pricey)
Cardigan: J.Crew featherweight cotton (worn here - sim, cashmere, cropped)
Necklace: via Overstock (sim, pricey, luxe)
Bracelet: J.Crew (sim)
Shoes: Sofft giovanna (worn here - sim, wedge, pricey)

51 comments:

  1. I was one of those taller girls in grade school. I was always the tallest, and let me tell you it sucked. I used to feel like a giant and totally awkward. But then I just stopped growing and everybody kept going, and I capped off at a mighty 5'2 and I'm pretty content being a shorty. :)

    xoxo
    ~Natasha Fatah~

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  2. Love the dress and love the color combo! So pretty!
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  3. I'm an inch or two (at most) taller than you and also struggle with the length of maxis. I normally sport wedges to make them doable :) This color and style look great on you! Happy Friday!

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  4. I think your legs look SO long in this maxi dress, Lisa!

    I'm shorter than you at 4'10" so I can relate to this! My biggest beef with being so petite is that people assume I am so much younger because of my height. I often wonder if I've been overlooked for jobs because of it. But other than that, it's something I've dealt with my ENTIRE life and I've accepted it! I'm happy wearing flats and I have a very tall hubby to reach things on the high shelf :)

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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    1. I know what you mean, I still get carded sometimes and it is just plain annoying (sure sure, I complain about this now - give me another 10 years ...)

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  5. I can relate- I'm 5'3" and this morning the coffee bean grinder wasn't in its usual place. My tall husband had placed it on the highest shelf in the kitchen! I had to climb the cupboard to get it! How am I supposed to make him coffee if I can't reach the grinder? Sheesh!
    --TS

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    1. BF always says that I put too many things down too low - but I only go up to as high as I can reach! We've got high ceilings in my house, which just means tall cabinets and the top two shelves being unusable!

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  6. I definitely think I've been treated differently because of my short stature. I still struggle to find pants that fit. Ok, why do they assume if you're 5'3 that you're also 90 lbs? People always think I'm much younger than I actually am...cut to me getting carded at a rated R movie WHEN I WAS 26!!! And I am always mistaken for my own secretary. Clients come into my office and ask me where their attorney is and to get them a cup of coffee. I inform them I am their attorney and that there is a Dunkin' Donuts across the street.

    Tara
    Penniless Socialite

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    1. ha! i've been carded for R rated movies in my 20s too! i'm 5'4" so not a total shorty (the shortest in my family though) but i have very chubby cheeks and a round face... i've even been asked what grade i'm in or how recently i graduated college... slightly annoying but funny as all hell when i tell them i was born in '76 and let them figure out the math.

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  7. I've always been told that I'm 4'10" but my new doctor said I'm 5'0" who knew? My height doesn't really matter to me. I've made peace with it long ago mainly because I'm taller than my Mom and sister. I have a great tailor so altering clothes isn't really an issue. Gotta work with what you got.

    I really like this maxi dress on you. You look at least 5'6" in this dress.

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    1. Ever since I moved out of NYC, I don't have a go-to tailor. The lady who did my stuff there just knew her stuff - I would just bring my clothes and she'd work her magic. Nowadays, between not having a go-to tailor and being lazy, I look for things to just fit.

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  8. this dress looks fabulous on you! I'm 4'10" so I can definitely relate. us shorties just have to get creative! :)

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  9. oh em gee-- you look super tall in these photos! I've always been super short,and yes, though it limits a lot of what I can do (aka reach) I think it also excuses me from doing things I don't want to do (aka reach for things) :) I used to be the tallest in my class until about 5th grade. I swear, I haven't grown since then.

    ♥ laura
    the blog of worldly delights
    the shop of worldly delights

    ps. LOVE that dress!

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  10. Three cheers for shorties Lisa! I am 5'4" and I feel your pain. It was interesting, though, because I was one of the tallest in elementary school. Then I just . . . stopped growing altogether! Lame. Love love LOVE this maxi dress on you girl! The color combo here is fierce! Enjoy your weekend!

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  11. GREAT dress! Love the pink/coral & yellow!

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  12. This maxi looks great on you! I love the color combination. It's very bright for spring! :)

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  13. i am the same height as you are and in school i was always made fun of and it took me years to accept myself(and sometimes i still get frustrated).
    now i enjoy when my girlfriends cant wear what i wear, because they are too tall or just too "big".
    Btw. i ordered the jcrew amie maxi dress and am excited how it will look!
    you look smashing in the dress!!!

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    1. One advantage of my height - I can still shop junior's clothing. But sometimes, not sure if that is an advantage ... hello, Forever 21 ...

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  14. I was always very tall in elementary school, even if I was a tear younger than my classmates I was still taller than most of them. Then, about six grade I stopped growing. I am of average height (5'6) but from the times of being the tall one I always thought that shorter girls were cuter. My older daughter was always one of the shortest kids and I never thought that was a disadvantage but my younger one is very tall and I think it makes it harder to get away with anything because people assume she is older and she is also less coordinated in sports because of her height.

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  15. I'm just a bit over 5 feet, but I've spent most of my life in a place where most people are shorter than the norm, so it doesn't really bother me. However, last night I was at the drugstore and just could not see the price tag of an item on the top shelf! I tried backing all the way up and standing on tiptoe, stepping on the lowest shelf ... just could not see it. In the end I had to ask one of the workers to tell me the price. :)
    This outfit is so cute - I like the cheery fruit colors!

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    1. I went to Amsterdam once for a meeting and excused myself to us the restroom. The mirror in the ladies room - no joke - started at my nose and went up from there. I thought I was short in the US - I am like an alien dwarf in Amsterdam!

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  16. Love your outfit! I have guess my height (5'5.5") must be considered average since pants are almost always the right length and I don't think anyone has ever made assumptions about me based on my height (OTOH when I was fat - I got a lot of assumptions).

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    1. Oh to be 5'5" - those 3" used to see so important in my head. Though when I was growing up, I was shooting for the stars, I wanted to be 5'9"!

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  17. I'm 5 feet 4. So for an asian I'm considered quite tall but I have friends who are a lot shorter and I can understand their pain in finding clothes that fit and people looking down on them or thinking they are super young when they aren't. I guess the advantages of that is when they are 40 they will look like they are 30! haha
    Love the maxi!

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    1. I remember shopping in Singapore once and while I am about a size 2/2P in the US, I was pulling stuff marked size 12 there! I was one of the big girls!

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  18. amazing this dress, i really love itttttt!
    nice to meet your blog!

    xx

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  19. cute look. the colors are so fun for the warmer months!
    xo,
    nancy

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  20. Oh, height... I'm 5'7", but I was about 5'5" by the time I was in fifth grade and had my very first crush on a boy. One day the whole class was at our lockers, getting ready to leave, and a bunch of people, including the apple of my eye, were making plans to go to a movie that night. Suddenly he turned to me and said, "Julie, you should come." My heart leapt! And the he finished his statement: "You look older, we can get into a PG-13 movie if you go." Ughhh. Moral of the story: height does not solve everything.

    Love the outfit, what a fun color combination!

    xo Julie

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    1. My two junior high BFFs were able to get into movies that I was not alone, so there was an advantage there - but I remember seeing one of them in tears before too, because in 7th grade, she was "too tall" to find a date with the boys in the same grade as us.

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  21. The height thing is so relative. In my family I am routinely called "the short one" and clock in at the shortest of 5 siblings, their spouses, my parents, step-parents, and the vast majority of my cousins. Here's the thing, I'm 5'7". But, when you grow up in a family of giants 5'7" earns you the nickname "Shrimp." Sigh. (Even in my tallest heels, 5.5", my younger sister is still a hair taller than me if she's barefoot. Cruel, cruel world.)

    xox

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    1. I kind of feel the same way about my dad with his family. He's one of the short ones amongst his siblings. Then other than my petite mom, I am the shortest in my fam, so "argh ..." shortness for me, haha.

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  22. I've always been right in the middle height-wise...so I guess I didn't have to deal with that issue so much. I was a little taller than most boys my age by 8th grade though...the whole girls hitting puberty first thing and all. By high school though, that all changed. Love your cute outfit...the colors are awesome! Love that fun yellow cardi!

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  23. Oh man...if I could have just one wish it would be for a few more inches (and I hate admitting that!). I'm average height 5'4" but I will lie and say I'm taller. In athletics, height can be so advantageous it isn't even fair. I was on the crew team (besides me the shortest rower was 5'10" and I was constantly picked on (in fun) but inside it made me furious. I eventually fought my way into the first seat in the first boat, but I had to prove myself over and over to the coaches. I used to get so angry at the way the taller rowers were given preference even if they were not as strong or skilled. At regattas I was always assumed to be the coxswain. We were at the Head of the Charles and I was goofing around doing front/back hand springs and I had someone ask me if I was a gymnast. Granted I was doing hand springs...LOL..but I was wearing the CREW UNIFORM!!! Socially, height is no big deal since I'm average--clothes are OK, but I do get annoyed that I have to hem a ton of stuff because I'm NOT SHORT!!! haha

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  24. Oh man...if I could have one wish it would be for a few more inches. I'm average 5'4" but in the world of sports I always had to fight harder and constantly prove myself, especially as a rower. On the crew team in college, the shortest rower (besides me) was 5'10" so I was teased (in good fun) but inside it made me FURIOUS! My coaches reluctantly allowed me to earn my way to the first seat in the first boat--and even though i ALWAYS made the boats move faster I had to prove I coudl do it again and again and again--while the taller rowers were just handed seats. I actually confronted the head coach on it--I had the best erg time, I had the best results in the strend (strengh and endurance) test for ALL the female athletes at the university, and my boats were constistanly faster. He basically said I make the school look bad. Having a short rower disrespects the reputation of the team.

    Blech!! But having said all that...I also get annoyed that I have to hem everything when I'm NOT SHORT!!

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  25. Speaking of height and maxi dresses, that's one thing I find annoying...some maxi dresses are short on me. This one you're wearing looks to be the perfect length.

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  26. Such a great look...love the maxi dress and the necklace is gorgeous!!

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  27. You're a doll! Just found your blog. Love the dress and color combo. I'm 5'5, but not blessed (34a)! At this age, that is now a blessing!!!!

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  28. I am 5'5'' but always wished for a few more inches. I think size does matter Especially in the present few decades- we all know that the modern day beauty is defined by tall willowy supermodels no matter how hard we try to bring other types of beauty into the view. I am curious to when the shift will occur and whether I'll live to see it.

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  29. Maxi is super pretty on you, great color pairing.

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  30. I love those colours together!!! Following you!

    Kisses, Lucy:)

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  31. Love the color of this maxi dress! So far, don't think my height has made a diff. I think I'm 1 3/4 inch taller than you:p, and for an Asian, that's not super short I thought, until of course the family moved to Canada when I learned I'm short. Always had issue with dress length too, had my first maxi dress only a yr ago. Best part for me, I'm supposedly petite but my proportion makes petite pants too short even on me. I tell ya, feels like can't win sometimes. Thank god for hemming! hehe

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  32. I really love the color of your dress and how you wore the sweater with it. You look so stylish. And I do know what you mean about height but it's definitely all relative. Sometimes I'm with my friends that are all 5 ft tall and I feel HUGE. But then when I'm with tall girls over 5'10" I feel really short. You look beautiful and the maxi dress is perfect on ya.!

    xoDale
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  33. Stunning, stunning dress. I love how you styled it. Stand straight and walk proud, cuz you look amazing.

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  34. Love the dress! I'm currently in love with bold colors and your outfit's addition of the yellow cardigan is making me wish I owned one. :)

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  35. Love the colors on that dress and that necklace!

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  36. I am hitting the big 4-0 this year. Me and my family (husband 2 kids and baby) walked into a restaurant and the hostess went to seat us and was grabbing the menus and she said to us, "uh, 2 kids menus?" and I was thinking..."you serious?" I am under 5 ft, but really? Do I look under 12 where we would need 3 kids menus? I'm assuming she may have been questioning that I may need a kids menu because my baby doesn't need a menu! Ugh! I've learned to deal with my size but sometimes rude people make it very difficult!!!

    You do look very tall in this outfit!

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  37. fabulous color-blocking! you look amazing. :)

    xoxo
    jasmine
    AdamAlexMommy

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  38. I'm 5'4" being taller has always been my dream since my mom is 5'10" and my dad is 5'9 1/2" . I never understood why the short gene from both my grandmothers skipped my parents and landed in my DNA..hehe Well at least I have heels to make my dreams come true.

    You look lovely as usual! Love the color-blocking! :)

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  39. Great combo! Love the dress!

    Alas, I am 5'2" as well. This particularly stuck in my craw b/c I'm shorter than everyone in my fan, even my mom who I got it from! I had to resign myself to being the person who waiters ignored because they thought little me wasn't going to pick up the check, who friends patted on the head, and who could never find a pair of jeans my length. I am slightly mollified by the fact that my husband calls me cute-sized and beautiful all in the same breath. We'll see how I feel in 15 years when my baby girl outgrows me! :)

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  40. I love the color mixing you've done here. And your maxi is gorgeous! You certainly don't look short.:) I'm only 5'4" myself. But I don't mind it.

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