14 May 2012

A Hair Above

Despite being a gal who doesn't really have the patience or know-how to really take care of her hair, I am pretty sensitive about it. My hair in its natural state bears a mild resemblance to a broom - the hairs itself are course and straight, and it does not want to hold a curl or behave and lay flat. When it is humid, there is not enough product in the world to keep it from going crazy. Yet when I lived in the dry SW, it lay super-flat and was static central. I may be the only Asian person in existence with frizzy coarse straight hair.

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I've had a series of bad hair experiences as well that may have "traumatized" me into being super-sensitive about my locks. Such as in fourth grade, when my mom took me for a perm right before my class pictures (my mom liked my hair short with big curls back then). The hair place was super busy and the ladies left me in my curlers and solution way too long. By the time they remembered me, there way no saving my hair. I went to take my class pics with a chin-length full-blown 'fro. Brushing it out and trying to pin it back only resulted in me resembling a well-kept poodle.

Suffice it say, that was my last perm ever. I pretty much spent most of junior and high school with no real hair style - it was long and almost always my pair pulled back into a severe ponytail.

In freshman year of college, I went to get a cut at a new hair place and the stylist there told me that I was going bald up front - probably from years of pulling my hair back into a ponytail, but ultimately nothing that was permanent or really that obvious - but to this day I still remember that comment and am neurotic about potential scalp patches.

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Nowadays I am just unnaturally scared about going grey. In my mind sometimes, all I can think about is what could be worse (I know, I know) than my dark coarse hair slowly being streaked with white - I have visions of looking like some crazed wild-haired mountain woman.

Why am I whining (un)poetic about my hair? Considering I've had essentially the same hair for the past few years, I am thinking of ungoing a major cut in the next week or so. And part of the reason why I am announcing it is so that I don't want to be called out as a chicken for backing out!

Do you have any hair-tastrophes you want to share? What's your favorite length? How adventurous are you with your hair cuts?

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Dress: F21 linen fronds (worn here - sim, strapless, luxe)
Sweater: J.Crew (worn here - sim, sim, striped)
Belt: Asos bow skinny (same in large size, sim)
Bracelets: F21, J.Crew, Target, Limited (sim, sim, sim, sim)
Shoes: Michael Kors hamilton (worn here - sim, mid heel, luxe)
Bag: J.Crew tillary canvas stripe (sim, luxe, cas)

64 comments:

  1. what a lovely outfit! the yellow is super cute!
    Tina @ Www.Tinacious.Me

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  2. a) you're nuts.
    b) you have great hair.
    c) I love this outfit, you're ready for your MadMen cameo.
    d) please see a and b again. ;)

    xoxo
    ~Natasha Fatah~
    ~Natasha Fatah~

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    1. Aw thanks - but there's a reason I don't typically show close-ups of my hair, ack!

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  3. You look fabulous! and so does your hair! Don't worry about the gray, when the time comes...you can always color it. (I speak from experience :o))

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    1. I have visions of these giant coarse white streaks growing out of my head overnight and I'll never be able to keep up with the color!

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  4. you look totally adorable and retro today! your jacket reminds me of a jcrew on my friend just handed down to me! and I love your purse!

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    1. JC came out with a bunch of these cute sweater jacket things a few seasons ago that I adore, and the quality was there, meaning our jackets will last a long time!

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  5. oh man, another gal who got that bag and i missed out! waaah!

    i think you look great in this outfit.

    as for my hair, i'm incredibly lazy. i wash at night and let it dry. conditioner, though, is a godsend for my frizziness up top.

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    1. $70 was a deal too sweet for me to pass up, especially since I really wanted one of the all leather ones but most of those were long gone before they even hit sale.

      As for my hair, I condition, I use defrizzer, spray, gel - you name it. What I typically succeed in doing is flattening out my top real good but my ends still get out of control.

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  6. I'm going to back up your mum here and say there's nothing i love more than luscious dark curls! I wouldn't let that previous trauma shape all future decisions about curls! When done right, they look beautiful and are SUPER low maintenance - just scrunch and go!

    I'm sure you'll look lovely no matter what you decide to do!

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    1. I don't know - back in 1st grade, my hair resembled Keri Russell's after she chopped off her long curly locks, except not that cute! ;o)

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  7. I, too, had a terrible perm in fourth grade! My aunt took me to a salon when I was visiting her in Taiwan, and I honestly didn't fully understand what was happening....I thought it would wash out...then, I spent the next couple years growing it out in a frizzy mess until I got it all chopped off in sixth grade. I vowed never to take any chemicals or even a flat iron to my hair again. My cousin actually wrote a story about her hilarious experience with perming, too (http://www.divinecaroline.com/22260/65227-straight-talk-perms). The perm: a rite of passage for young Asian girls the world over?

    By the way, you look fantastic! Love the yellow.

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  8. First of all, I think you've just disproved my belief that Asians can't wear yellow...you look great!

    I don't think I have quite the same hair as you, but I do have frizzy Asian hair. Most of the time I need to flat iron to calm it down, but I am lucky that it will hold a curl (sometimes). I'm also not that adventurous with my hair, and I always wear it down. People do double-takes on the extremely rare occasion I wear it up.

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    1. It's funny because for me, during business trips and stuff, I usually wear my hair up because then I don't need to deal with frizz, etc. It'll be strange to get a length I have to wear down most of the time!

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  9. I have frizzy hair too. When it's going to rain or humid, no matter how much calming cream I put on my hair, just doesn't help. I use a flat iron every other day. Don't want to do any more damage to my dried out hair.

    Think you would look great with shoulder-length hair as you have those perfect shaped face that shorter hair would frame your face perfectly.

    p.s. love your new tote. Looks great with your yellow outfit. GORGEOUS!!

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  10. your hair always looks beautiful, Lisa! My honest opinion is to keep your hair the way it is right now.

    I have had my hair every length from down to my waist to above my chin shorty-short short layers. I liked them all but definitely love long, long hair on me. I have donated my hair four times--it grows back pretty fast. I doubt I will ever donate again. I think I've done it enough, and I enjoy long locks :)

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    1. I don't think my hair grows that fast so I am partly hesitant to get this chopped because it'll take forever to grow back for me. But I'm also kind of ready for a hair change!

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  11. I wish I could be more adventurous with my hair, but with curly hair you are pretty limited. Especially when you have a LOT of curly hair. I fully support you going a different route with your hair (though it looks great now and trust me what I wouldn't give for stick straight hair). I think it is fun to mix it up and in the end, it is just hair--it will grow back. Love the yellow dress Lisa!

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    1. The grass is always greener on the other side, haha.

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  12. I have frizzy coarse hair too, but I think my hair is more wavy than straight. I'm actually wearing it longer than usual right now because having more length cuts down on the frizz - but that means it's heavier, too. :)
    The shortest I've gone is chin length. I like your hair as is, but yay if you decide to get daring and chop some off!
    My solution for white hairs - the Mr. pulls them out. I know that's only a temporary fix, but I'm trying to put off getting sucked into the vicious cycle of dyeing/highlighting, etc. as long as I can.
    P.S. - You look lovely in yellow!

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    1. I haven't done anything really short since elementary school and honestly I am not brave enough to do anything chin length or above. This is the longest my hair has been since high school, and honestly I am getting kind of tired of "dealing" with it!

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  13. Pretty dress! I'm a little surprised it's from F21! Love that store!

    Nothing worse than traumatizing hair experiences. I don't even feel like myself if my hair is off on any particular day.

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  14. The Javiar Bardem year was a low point in my hair life. Watch No Country for Old Men and you'll see what I mean. Ever since then I have not been adventurous with my hair and I don't intend to. So, if you back out I will totally understand. As for this outfit, you look gorgeous. The color is fantastic and the jacket adds a nice Jackie-O look to the whole thing. See, you look like Jackie-O. Don't cut the hair :)

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    1. I had to Google it because it's been so long since I've seen that movie - and I'm so sorry! ;o) Though I bet you actually looked cute in that cut vs Javier, haha!

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  16. You look really put together in this outfit. Love the yellow on you. I thought the bag was Celine. It's awesome. I had a dye job once that left me looking like a skunk. I was going for a highlighted look and I ended up with one giant stroke of a blondish color. I'm okay with the stray grays, but I am super sensitive about my hairline. I have one side that's a little thinner than the other. I would DIE if it were to recede or thin out significantly.

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    1. I did my own highlights once and ended up with tiger stripes - it was horrific!

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  17. Lisa,
    Your hair always looks perfect! I have curly hair and it is quite frizzy, but what I discovered is that if I only shampoo once a week, and "shampoo" my hair with conditioner instead in the days in between (it's hard to explain but pretend your conditioner is shampoo and rub your scalp with it) , my hair becomes soft and manageable. It never looks dirty (and trust me, I have oily hair).
    The first time I donated my hair, the lady cut an additional 4in. on top of the 8 I asked her to cut, leaving me with a short Christmas tree cut (curly ladies probably know what I mean). Traumatic indeed. But at least the recipient of my hair got a little bonus length ;-)
    -Anthro Blogger

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    1. Hm, I'll have to try your wash technique, thanks for sharing! I usually wash my hair at least once every two days because though my hair is coarse, my scalp is oily - and another fail for me, I've tried the dry shampoo stuff but just end up looking like I've got REAL dirty hair!

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  18. I never would have guessed you had such hair issues! I've never been too terribly adventurous with cuts. I remember one really bad one that traumatized me. I went in for a trim and came out with hair above my ears. With my round face at the time, I looked like a young boy instead of a hot 20 something girl. And I was NOT happy. For a long time. Since then, I've found shoulder length and longer is my favorite length, for me personally. The thing I do get adventurous with is my color! I just got pink streaks last week, for the 3rd time. I've done purple, blue, and green as well and I'm really thinking about getting more color next time. Right now there are only a few streaks of pink and mostly my natural color but I might go bolder next time!

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    1. In kindergarten and first grade, people totally thought I was little boy. I was a tomboy anyways, so my parents dressed my in denim overalls and little striped polos, AND I had a short hair cut with big curls.

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  19. Love that dress! I can't believe it's from Forever 21.

    xo, tasha
    Enter to win a $50 Bauble Bar giftcard

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  20. My hair is horrible...seriously! Loving this adorable yellow ensemble!

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  21. I love the yellow jacket paired with that adorable yellow printed dress!

    Ooh I wonder what kind of hair cut you have in mind? My hair has been the same for years and years. From time to time, I think about cutting it into a long bob, but then I start fearing I'll look 12. I like having long hair, especially in the summer so I can put it up in a ponytail/bun when it's hot out. My hair also gets super frizzy too, btw. I am best friends with my flat iron.

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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    1. I was also thinking of some sort of long bob, maybe longer in the front. But I too, am afraid I'll end up looking elementary instead of chic and edgy!

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  22. First off, I can't believe that dress is from F21 - so lovely and un-teeny bopper like!

    I wore a home-perm with tall bangs all through high school (it was the 80s, not that that's an excuse!). I have my hair super short and super long. I prefer it super short for ease of morning prep, but I think I look most myself when it's at the length right now - chin length bob.

    I hope you go for the new 'do - remember hair always grows back ;)

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    1. You always look great regardless of the length of your hair - you've got one of those great faces that can do really short hair well. My head is round, I'm afraid I will look too "ball-like" if I go real short!

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  23. I say just do it!:p Ah, the bad perm. It was so bad, my mom, whose idea it was to begin with to perm my hair, agreed to get it straightened as soon as my hair would allow it. I've done super short, super long and everthing in between, except color it blue or getting a mohawk perhaps. As for the gray, dye it, dye it, dye it haha... Loving the yellow! And the print of that dress!:)

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  24. I think we may have similar hair texture...thick and coarse and wavy on its own. I committed the ultimate sin...I got a perm in 6th grade. This was of course self inflicted misery...my Mom didn't advise it but said if you want to try it fine. Well I had clown hair and it took 2 years to grow out.

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    1. High five for horrific elementary school hair experiences!

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  25. Just do it! I go totally pixie short every three years or so! Have fun with it! That said, I am also scared of going bald. And gray. I pull out the grays I see. I know I'm not supposed to, but I'm doing ok with that so far...
    --TS

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    1. I admire the women with short kind of spiky/soft hair - I am too chicken to go that short myself, plus I'm round headed and that probably won't be a good look for me. But I am committing (!) myself to get several inches off at least.

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  26. Lovely outfit! Your hair looks great. Mine is naturally wavy and I spend copious amounts 'ironing' it each day. Once it hits moisture (which is about 250 days a year where I live), it's back to the wave.

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    1. I've tried ironing my hair before to attemp to make it extra sleek and shiny - I just end up with flat iron crimps in my hair. Sigh - user error obviously.

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  27. First I must say how beautiful, refreshing and chic your outfit looks. It's simply perfect for spring. As far as hair I was stuck in a natural hair rut until I decided to make a huge commitment. I'm going to loc my hair that's the big change I have been looking for.

    I can't wait to see your haircut and you wont chicken out don't worry!

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  28. You look so pretty in this yellow outfit!! And I can't tell at all that you have coarse frizzy hair!! Your hair always looks so beautiful and styled, I couldn't of never guesses. I think Asian hair is hard to manage though (not everyone but a lot of asian hair) My hair is super thick coarse and frizzy towards the roots....so I can sympathize with you! And I have to add that your 4th grade bad perm experience is hilarious (I know it wasn't funny back then to you though) I also have a terrible perm experience (fro) so again I can totally relate to how you felt....good think we can laugh about it now right? :)

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    1. I see people get gorgeous soft curls now with their perms and stuff but I'm still so scared of it that I haven't really processed my hair since that 4th grade experience!

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  29. Count me in on the Asian women with frizzy coarse sort-of-straight hair. It's been the bane of my life. Which...I suppose says a lot about the kind of hardships I've had to confront in my lifetime. =P

    I'll stop whining now. Your outfit is so fun. Love it! :)

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  30. can't wait to see pictures!

    I have very long (like, to my butt) hair that is naturally curly. it takes a lot of product to keep it in control, and if there's any humidity I know it'll just get soft and frizzy. I actually had super straight, wouldn't hold any curl, limp hair until I hit puberty... and overnight it just curled up!

    also, you look very Doris Day. I love this outfit! yellow is such a fun and happy color.

    I especially love the yellow sweater jacket. so darn cute.

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    1. I sway between wanting to grow my hair longer (because right now is probably the longest I've have my hair since high school) and chopping it off because the longer it gets, the more out of control it gets for me.

      That's crazy about your hair - my mom has naturally curly hair too, which is peculiar because grandma has straight hair and my sis and I also have straight hair.

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  31. Ooh, I am excited to see the new haircut. I had long hair for the longest time and then went through experimenting stage- cut it short, dyed it blond, had fun. After first try it was not so scary anymore.:) Now I am back to the simple layered cut and natural color- I do have greys,those sneaky hateful strands, but most of the dyes cover them nicely. I do like to see tillary canvas in action- mine is still wrapped- it looks as a lovely contrast to yellows.

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  32. So glad you commented on my blog - you look super cute in this yellow outfit! How fun that you're in Atlanta, too! ;-) Also, I'm hosting a giveaway on my blog - a cute silver pair of earrings! Check it out here...I think you'll like it. ;-) Following you now!

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  33. I love this acid yellow ensemble! You look incredible in it! The color is just so amazing.
    I'm in the process of growing out my hair from a pixie cut. I love having shortshort hair but I get bored very easily! Also - while I'm very lazy with washing and products and such, I LOVE playing around with my hair - braiding it, twisting it, updos etc. Thats the only good thing about having long hair to me! I also may be the only woman on the planet that loves the black and gray streaked witchy-woman hair - but I know its not a lot of peoples favorite look so to that I say - there's a reason they made dye!!

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  34. Oh yes, I have a similar perm story myself. Those school photos are still hard to look at! I actually started getting gray hair when I was 19. Crazy, right? I have to get my hair dyed every 4-6 weeks, which kind of sucks. I'm also letting my hair grow out for the first time in 15 years. Dealing with longer hair is challenging and I have been trying a lot of different products to combat the frizz (so far, I'm loving phyto products).

    I love this yellow dress on you! Very pretty. I'm excited about the possible new haircut!

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  35. When I was abt 12, I got this cut and the stylist asked if I wanted it styled. Silly me said yes and it was bad. My family went shopping after and I opted to stay in the car and you know what? There were no pep talks, no "It's not as bad as you thinks", etc. I just got a shoulder pat and nods. No one touched my bangs again until I turned 25! And luckily, my hair won't hold a perm. My mom took me to get one in Taiwan when I was 4 and it fell out immediately. If it had gone well enough, I could have a whole sordid hair history to recount.

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  36. Lisa!! I just got a hair cut. I haven't had one in over year. I chopped off about 10" and am so happy about it. :) I do miss my long(er) locks though, but thankfully my hair grows like a weed.

    I am so loving you in yellow!!!! Happy Wednesday-ing. :D

    xx Love & Aloha
    http://elisharon.blogspot.com

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  37. Love yellow!
    that dress is gorgeous!
    your blog is stunnig! would you like to follow each other??
    I already follow you on GFC and Bloglovin! we could stay in contact!

    xoxo!
    self-dressed.blogspot.com

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  38. you look absolutely amazing... great dress, and i am in love with that tillary bag!

    xoxo
    jasmine
    AdamAlexMommy

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  39. Just stumbled across your blog, and I love it - you've got a great sense of style *and* humor!
    In terms of the haircut, I say go for it! (of course, easy for me to say since I have a pixie)

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  40. I've had a few adventures with hair.

    My perm story is similar to yours - except it was a home perm. I must have been 10 or 11 years old. I cried.

    At 16 I began coloring my hair, going blonde. I'd do it myself, as I didn't have the funds to go to a salon. I quickly learned that ash blonde wouldn't work for me, as it made my hair look green (and not like an edgy, cool kind of green but rather a sickroom sort of green).

    These days, I'm not too worried about hair. I'm willing to take risks, knowing that if it's awful it will eventually grow out.

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  41. i just recently had TWO hair catastrophes (relaxer) and my hair is just now growing out. i've always been sensitive about my hair and those two events didn't help. i just keep taking biotin vitamins which have helped. i started going gray in my mid 20's. so i have to color and relax. it's hard on the hair, but i'm too young to go entirely gray. your hair is your crown and glory. when it's off, it doesn't make you feel good. great post.

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