10 April 2012

Peace it Out

I think for those us who don't live alone, we always walk a fine line when it comes to cohabitating peacefully with other human beings. We all have our own minds and ideas on what's important in the household and what isn't. Which often means that people disagree. But unless you like living in a perpetual fight club, I think to keep the peace there's got to be a whole lotta compromise that goes on.

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Take myself for example. I know, I know, I'm so darn right near-perfect, why would anyone think of disagreeing with me, you ask - but on the rare occasion my absolute home perfection can border on the slight obsessive. Could you keep a straight face reading that, because I sure couldn't.

In the living room when watching TV, I am a complete remote hog. I need to know what is going on all channel at all times (I don't want to miss out!) so during commercial breaks, I am whizzing around the guide channel trying to better-deal myself. I have a habit of picking up the remote and switching channels if BF walks out of the room - even just to use the bathroom - so the remote usually cuddles with me on the couch. Thankfully BF is not a big sports fanatic or we would have been all out brawling by now!

I also HAVE to eat. So when we are deciding on where to go, BF has learned to pick up the hint (though honestly I didn't know I was being all passive aggressive dropping it) that if I'm recommending a place or type of food, if I mention something more than once, that's where I want to go. Even if I say I don't care. So good on my sweetie for reading me better than I do myself.

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What about my cohabitating buddy? Well, BF can get obsessive with new hobbies. And when he's all in, it's best just to leave him alone, even if it is 4am on a Tuesday and he's still up. Like video games - Call of Duty ruled his life for a while. Then it was learning all the ins and outs of poker. And most recently? Checking out conspiracy theory videos on YouTube.

Also, when we go out together, BF also almost always drives. He says it is because he likes the ride of his SUV better than my regular-sized vehicle, but I am convinced he thinks I drive like a maniac. I  really don't ... for the most part, anyways.

For peace in the household, what matter do you "let" your loved ones win?

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Top: J.Crew tippi (worn here - sim, simcasual)
Skirt: J.Crew dorrie (worn here - factory, sim, sim, sim)
Necklace: nutcase fashion via Etsy (sim, gentler, pricey)
Bracelets: F21 & Target (sim, sim, bling-y, sim, sim)
Shoes: Zara lined wedge (worn here - sim, rubber, in nude, no strap, luxe)

59 comments:

  1. First - love this dress! It sings on you!

    Second - I know! How do we do it? How do we live our partners and both make it out alive. ;)

    Third - I'm totally with you on the food thing - Chris knows that when I stop walking/moving/whatever activity and say quietly "I need to eat" that I mean business. ;)

    xoxo
    ~Natasha Fatah~

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    1. Your second point is a crack-up because it is so true! How does anyone live with another human being and get out alive?!

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  2. Love the Dorrie/Tippi combo in Flame! I was in Zara this weekend and saw those shoes and remembered them from your blog. You rock them so well! :)

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    1. Thanks, girl! And strangely, they are really comfy!

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  3. Haha, Lisa, remind me only to invite you over to our house, AFTER a professional cleaner has been in to do a deep clean. ^_- I "let" the DH put up anime posters on upstairs walls. I do ask that they're appropriate for general consumption and that they're framed. He lets me leave piles of clothes all over our bedroom. (I'm gonna get to 'em, I promise!)

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    1. BF and I have an understanding about laundry. Anything in a pile on the floor or armchair will be washed, regardless if it is a pair of socks or a brand new wool suit. You think that would be a warning except he has a load more dirty socks than suits!

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  4. I love that tangerine color on you, Lisa! At first I thought it was a dress!

    My hubby is the one that's the remote hog. Luckily we have 2 TVs and 2 DVRs. Sometimes we can't compromise on what to watch (he refuses to watch my reality shows) and we'll wind up watching TV in different rooms, hehe.

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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    1. I've banished myself to the bedroom before so I can watch my Real Housewives in peace while the BF watches something boring, like the news. ;o)

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  5. These colors are amazing on you! I love the teal shoes with the flame top/skirt!

    I'm the most passive aggressive restaurant chooser in the world! It drives my husband crazy! But he puts up with it because I put up with him obsessively flicking through radio stations while we drive. And his beard trimmings in the sink. So there!

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    1. I had always thought I was doing BF a service by having him make a restaurant choices because I pretty much eat anything and he pretty much only eats burgers, but nope, apparently I am also a passive aggressive restaurant chooser!

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  6. You look great in that bold orange! :)
    Hmm, I compromise on choosing movies on Netflix. The Mr. will ask me to suggest a few titles, but 99% of the time they are rejected. He has some arcane criteria he applies to his movie selections. Oh, and it takes at least half an hour for him to pick a movie. It used to drive me nuts before, but now I just read a book while he does his thing.

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  7. How great is that necklace? What a combination, and your brilliant tone on tone mixing with the orange (gee, I miss orange, it's been awhile!) really lets it stand out! I've been cheating on my usual colour loves- perhaps it's time to reunite...love...

    Oh, most of the time I am the one who's always hinting we should order in, or get some cookies etc...but always in a passive- hey, wouldn't you like this?- kinda way. My compromise is doing the house cleaning (sporadically) since I leave piles of things and clothes and cats everywhere, all of the time, daily...

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    1. Haha, I am envisioning you leaving piles of fuzzy cats in your wake - like they are coming out of your purse or pockets and such! ;o)

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  8. Date nights. It's the only way that the two of us get time together with jobs and kids and all that that entails. We don't fight about too much--we are both really good about giving each other space and letting one another "do our thangs", but it can happen.

    Lovely red dress and those teal heels are so pretty! I love all the necklaces too! Red and teal are one of my favorite color combos right now.

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  9. Wow, I didn't realize that was a top + skirt rather than a dress! You pull off orange so well. (Modern red, I'm guessing?)

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    1. Oh yeah, I've all about the modern red - or is called flame this season?

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  10. Home improvement projects. I let it go in one ear and out the other. Mr. M always has grand plans but most don't come to fruition. He wants concrete counters and I don't. But I let it go because I know he'll never follow through. Some battles aren't worth fighting :-) I know I'm always right anyway ;-) hahaha...

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    1. Oh lady, BF is in the midst of reorganizing the dining room right now - you do not want to see ...

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  11. Awesome shoes and color combination of the outfit. Do we live with the same guy?

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    1. I bet they've played each other on Call of Duty online, haha!

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  12. Love the dress and shoes you are wearing and I totally understand remote hog! I'm totally in that zone!!

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  13. I love how you made the top and skirt work as a dress!! So clever, and those wedges are awesome!! I can totally relate to you in this post....I think my husband senses a lot of my signs, and knows when to let me pick certain things, hehe.

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    1. Mine is the same way. I am probably a great big old vat of crazy myself but BF senses it and works with it!

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  14. what a great post. husband reads me well - just like your BF with the dinner plans. :) and husband does get rather 'involved' in his hobbies, so i just walk away. like, it's dark outside right now, and he's STILL WELDING. he did promise to do the fish tanks today, but i'm not holding my breath.

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  15. Such a gorgeous color! I'm a BIG fan of orange :)

    xo, tasha
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  16. Oooo this is tough! Living together is not easy but it is a taste of what's to come in the future... And you are perfect :)

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  17. What a fabulous color on you! And paired with teal shoes? Awesome!

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  18. Oh good....We have the same skirt! This means I can copy your styling inspiriations whenever I want to wear the skirt but am feeling uncreative ;) Lol Well...after 16 years of marriage I've learned to "pick your battles". Most things aren't as important as they might seem at first, so it's best to hold out for just the really important issues.

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  19. what a nice topic!
    Sometimes my husband tells me it's up to me to choose a place to eat, I choose it and he suggests something else!! SO annoying! I think we do pretty well on sharing our battles. He is finally learning (after 5 years of marriage) that when I ask him to do something around the house I mean now or in the near future (sometime during that same day) as opposed of doing it when he felt like it which meant days later...!

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    1. Haha, don't you wish men to be more like children sometimes? When you tell kids stuff, they always seem to assume it will happen right that second - as for men ... well ...

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  20. Too funny, I'm the same way with the clicker!!! Hubs said he gets a headache the way I flick thru channels sometimes LOL And I say he still gets the better end of the stick. I can say that coz he doesn't read the blogs I do hehe... Love, love the orange!!!

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    1. Thank goodness for the directory of channels or my poor BF would be in migraine city every night!

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  21. Love that orange! And your necklace combos!

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  22. Fantastic monochromatic look with pops of contrasting color.

    The hubs and I have lived together for 12 years now so we are pretty good and giving each other space these days.

    BTW, The Hunger Games are 100% better than the Twilight series, in my opinion. I read Twilight but really couldn't stand Bella. THG has a bit more depth to them.

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    1. I'll have to give the Hunger Games a try. Bella and Edward were kind of teenage puppy love in the first book and I dug that - but the next two ... I ended up reading them just to see what happened, then got smart and just Wiki'd the fourth book, haha!

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  23. LOVE the color of those shoes against the orange - such a fun color combo :)

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  24. I love this outfit! The colors are so fun, and I WANT THOSE SHOES! :)

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  25. What a great post, Lisa! Compromise is SO important in a relationship. I've learned to not fight the Hubs over the budget. He's wayyy smarter with the money than I am, so I just let him have at it. And he's learned not to question my need for lunch breaks at the thrift store. =) (I think he's just happy I blow off steam there and not at someplace much more expensive!) lol

    I absolutely love your orange outfit!! And those shoes are FAB!!

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  26. I don't usually let him win...that's sounds bad doesn't it?? He knows I am easy going with almost everything but sometimes there is only a way: mine : )

    I love the tippi sweater, I am thinking on getting one in grey (now JCrew ships for free to Spain!!), I might need to sell a few things on ebay to get it ; )

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  27. Hi this is Connie from Nutcase Fashion, thank you so much for featuring the Kahei necklace here, you look absolutely FAB!!!

    x

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  29. Oooops! sorry about that.

    As always love the outfit. The color looks great on you and I love the color contrast of the shoes.

    We don't really fight much, (knock on wood). I told him early on while we were dating that I get really grouchy when I'm hungry so I need to be fed soon or I'll get a headache and he wouldn't want to see me get to that point so obviously I don't beat around the bush. I expect the same thing from him and that's to speak his mind. If he doesn't want to go have sushi for dinner then better have another option. We have a joint account and our own account so that neither one of us have to explain our spending just as long as we both contribute to the joint account and he likes to cook and I like to eat so everything evens out. It's been working for 12 years so I wouldn't change a thing.

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  30. Hi there! Wanted to come by & say thanks for commenting yesterday...little did I know I'd find someone so fabulous over here! I'm just loving all your outfits! And I appreciate you linking to past outfits with the same pieces..so helpful for us fashion novices! :o)

    I love the pairing of teal & orange together..fabulous!

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  31. Those shoes are amazing and I LOVE how you paired them with the red outfit!

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  32. So jealous of you, in charge of the clicker. I don't have that "power". Wish I had but at the same time, I would rather watch Real Housewives and other "good" shows on my own.

    btw, J. Crew is having a 30% off now(till 13th). Use code : SHOPNOW. Buy buy buy!! :)

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  33. Cool necklace, and love the bright red combination.

    Oh the compromise! Hubby plays video basketball when he's "working", and I take long, long naps when I'm "working".

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  34. Great post Lisa! I don't live with anyone, so I'll pass on this topic. HaHa LOVE your top, skirt and ohhhh those shoes are fabulous. Happy to see you back! Missed reading your posts.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  35. Oh I respect the shoes honey! Love them and your blog! Following!

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  36. Love the color combo...and those shoes are too cute! x

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  37. My husband is the same with driving (though I actually prefer someone else to drive anyway!) I also do the same thing with food preferences - if I mention it, I want it! We all have our little quirks and that is what makes us lovable right?
    Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely week!

    xoxo,
    Chic 'n Cheap Living

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  38. How funny, I JUST peeked at those shoes tonight while browsing all of the lovelies at ZARA. As far as "letting things go" in this household - my oldest son refuses to wear anything other than t-shirts 9 times out of 10 and it used to really drive me crazy until I remembered my mother trying to force me to wear a hideous floral jumpsuit when I was starting junior high. In spite of me telling her I would never wear it if she bought it, she paid good money for that ugly thing then squawked that I never wore it. So, I can let go of long sleeves and polos because it's just not worth fighting over. ;)

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  39. Yes - I totally do that food thing too. I will make a suggestion, and then say, "but whatever, it doesn't matter". Of course, it DOES matter because that's what I want! Haha - I'm glad I'm not the only one who does that.

    Love those shoes and your assortment of necklaces!

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  40. The necklace is crazy cool.

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