What's this game? I like to think back to big moments of my life and wonder what it would've been like if I had taken that other fork in the road. This is not a game of Regrets for me, I am not wishing for my life now to be something it is not. But these big decisions have obviously made my life drastically different from what it may have been. Two examples ...
Now this was far beyond my realm of control at the time, but when I was three, my family moved us from Taipei to the US. My entire extended family was in Taiwan and only my mom's mom was in the States at the time, so we knew practically no one. My parents had to start from scratch here, learn a new language, get jobs, a home, care for two young girls. We started out in NJ, and then moved to NY after two years. All my schooling has been done in the States, I sound like any other American girl, I got my first unofficial job when I was 14, can speak but can't write Chinese, was an English Lit major through college.
If we had stayed in Taipei, I would've had a huge network of family - my dad was the second youngest of seven siblings and I have twenty-something cousins. I obviously would've written and spoken Chinese fluently - would I even have known English? Would my interests be the same, would be career path be vastly different, would I have already been married, had kids?
Right after college, I decided to move across the country to be with my then-boyfriend. After my move, I got the first job that I could, in marketing, and signed the contract to my very first apartment rental. My relationship with then-boyfriend didn't last long after that, but I bought my first car out there, got into serious credit card debt, met a myriad of new people, determined my career path, found an independence and confidence in my myself that I could have never expected.
My career path during college was in publishing and my then-dream was to become a book editor. I also had friends who were studying to be gallery managers, psychologists, business analysts - we were going to become the real life version of Sex and the City. Life not being like a stylish sitcom however, book editing jobs being difficult to come by and salaries rarely enough to afford a lifestyle with big loft ceilings in Tribeca - would I still be living at home? Would I be playing the dating game? Would I still be close to my then-BFFs? Would I have gotten a job in a vastly different field than I studied for, been allowed to travel, had any interest to start a style blog?
Do you sometimes think back to big decisions in your life and wonder what may have happened if you made the other decision? What were some key decision points in your life?