04 January 2012

Acid Jeans, Huskies, Chicken Nugs

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The timeframe is a bit fuzzy for me, but it was either in 7th or 8th grade when I first met my soon-to-be bestie, S. I sat behind her in homeroom and introduced myself by kicking the back of her chair and making lewd jokes. Shortly after that, we were inseparable in our goofy acid washed denim, bobo branded sneaker, over-sized jacket togetherness. Through junior high and high school, we were two geeky kids who hung out at each other's homes gossiping, shopping, eating and doing stupid but fun things.

In my inexperienced eyes, S's life was eclectic and fascinating. She and her little sis got to speak to their parents like equals and crack jokes and sit in with the adults when they had people over for poker. S at one time had one Siberian Husky, two fish and no fewer than four cats. She got to fly down to Atlanta during the Olympics to sell pins - what seemed like exotic freewheeling to me. S got to join the USA Shaolin Temple to learn kung fu, took guqin classes, volunteered at a museum. When we went to see movies together, S often bought, snuck in, and consumed by herself an entire 20-pack of Chicken McNuggets.

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In comparison, my family and I were straight-laced Asians. My parents and big sis worked. I was a studious latch-key kid with no fashion sense and a quiet demeanor. But we complemented each other and "got" each other. S and I went to the same high school, shared a limo for prom, cried over not going to the same college. S majored in art history, had trouble finding a job once out of school, then decided to go back to study accounting.

We started growing apart around college because we didn't go to the same school and started making friends in ever-differing circles - you know the deal. I moved away right after graduating and though we tried at first, it became increasing difficult to stay connected and stay close. S and I still vaguely stay in touch, but we aren't in each other's lives. I don't think we could really consider each other friends anymore - but that's okay, that's life. We move on, make new connections.

Who is your bestie? Are you still in touch? What do you like the most about your pal?

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Jacket: J.Crew Robert Noble herringbone (worn here - sim brighter here, cas here, tweed here)
Top: Market via Anthropologie standby ode (pinned up)
Pants: Loft modern corduroy bootcut (worn here - sim here, pricey here)
Scarf: gift (sim here, cashmere here)
Shoes: Etienne Aigner ethel (worn here)
Rings: c/o Jewelmint & Banana Republic (sim here, here, simpler here, sim feel here, here)

20 comments:

  1. Love the pops of color in this outfit!

    I think it's often natural that friends grow apart as we grow up and life changes. My bestie who I met in kindergarten (and lived just a few blocks away) moved to another state when we were juniors in high school. Occasionally we will talk via email but that's about it. This might sound lame but my best friend now is my husband!

    -Sharon

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  2. I was so hoping for a happy ending to your story, but knew that realistically it's probably not the case. I had a couple best friends growing up and sadly we have also drifted apart over the years. Going away to different colleges and moving to various areas was primarly also the reason. It always is a bit sad when I think about it, but that's life, ya know? I'm thankful for all the wonderful memories from the past and how it's shaped me into the person I am today. As for now, aside from my bf, a college friend is who I'd consider my bestie.

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  3. I have had the same BFF since 3rd grade! In fact, she is a single mama of 2 and moved home with her parents quite a few years ago. Six years ago hubs and I bought a home in the same neighborhood I grew up in....so guess who's neighbors again???
    We aren't as close as we were as kiddies and teens, and over time years have sometimes lapsed between catch ups. But it always puts a smile on my face when my doorbell rings and it's her 11yr old here to play with my 9yr old. I watch them and they are just like the two of us reincarnated!

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  4. I have experienced the same type of thing with 1 or 2 friends, only my BEST friend of 15 years and I had a major blowout that ended our friendship. To this day, I still can't believe it. I don't really have anyone I'd call a best friend anymore. Friends, but not best friend(s).
    You look lovely, as usual, BTW. :)

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  5. Ok, first of all, you look adorable. I am loving the top, jacket, and scarf pairing.
    I've actually been lucky and been able to stay in touch with my best friends. My 3 best girlfriends (and bridesmaids) are 3 girls I've known since I was 8 months, 6 years old, and 8 years old. We've been besties through it all despite going to different high schools and colleges, and I feel so lucky to have them in my life.
    www.saysskippy.blogspot.com

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  6. I have had the same best friend since 3rd grade (I am 35 now.), but there was a time where we were split- mostly because we were living very different lives, and were unable to connect at that time. However, we never lost touch, and I always made sure to let her know what she meant to me. I always sent flowers on her birthday, whether we had spoken recently or not. The past few years have been wonderful, as we have reconnected in a new way. Laughing about the past, but sharing the current life issues as well. We "get" each other, too. I love this post.

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  7. Lisa, I am dying over this outfit and the color mix. I'll need you to send that blazer to me, thanks! :)
    I've had one best friend since kindergarten and we've remained friends throughout the years although we aren't as close as we were as kids and don't see each other as often as I'd like.

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  8. Awww...yeah we all have stories like that. I used to get so upset over friendships that didn't last. Now I know to appreciate the time we had and know that nothing went "wrong" and that the person was in my life at that time for a reason. It kind of makes all my deeper meaninig relationships mean that much more!

    Seriously loving that last shot of the ring Lisa!

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  9. Love this outfit. Such a sucker for stripes (and those shoes!)
    You know I have been giving this topic a lot of thought lately. There are 3 people I consider seriously my besties and 2 of them I've known since preschool. The other one I met in college and the three of them are really different but each a big part of my life. It's been hard for me, having moved to the states, so far from my people but they are still my besties and the ones I talk to when I need advice or an honest opinion (after the H, obvi). I know that maybe as we grow older and start making families we will probably get somewhat distant but for now they are MY people and I try to maintain that as long as I can :)

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  10. i'm still very close with my bff from college. we talk daily.

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  11. Yours sounds like more than a "lifeboat friendship" so I think you may cycle back into one another's lives. This happens, and it's usually a lovely thing.

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  12. I really need a blazer like that, so pretty.

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  13. Love everything about this! The blazer is perfect, and love the stripes and animal print!

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  14. I've always hated falling out of contact with friends. I have gone through different of friends, mainly because of the switch from MS to HS and HS to college. But luckily I married my best friend and there will never be a falling out.

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  15. Not only does the blazer look gorgeous on you, the scarf goes perfectly with the red!!

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  16. Oh Lisa...you always look so cute in your outfits. I love your look today!

    I have a few best friends from high school and college and I'm so thankful that they are in my life. I also consider my sisters my best friend too. It definitely sucks when you fall out of touch with a close friend. Unfortunately, it's a part of life and growing up. When I was younger, I had a best friend in kindergarten and we remained best friends all the way through high school. We stayed in touch throughout college but we went to different schools and lost contact for a while when I moved up north after college. Since I moved back to FL, we started talking again and hanging out, but it's not the same. We don't get to talk everyday like we used to, but we are in each other's lives. I get to see her with her family and it's great watching all of her children grow up.

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  17. Aww Lisa, this post made me kind of sad because it reminded me of one of my best buds growing up. We were family friends and used to stay up alllll night long talking about the cute boys we liked and mean girls and then more about the cute boys we liked. We used to talk so much that she'd fall asleep on the phone and TALK TO ME IN HER SLEEP. But then I moved for college, and soon after, so did she. We made new friends, and now, we still talk, but we're definitely not as close as we used to be. I miss her sometimes, but I know that what I miss most is how simple it used to be when we were friends -- no rent to pay, no 9-5 job, no taxes. Just homework and gossip and fart jokes. Ah, childhood...

    Also, is it weird that the thing I'm most impressed about with S is the fact that she can consume 20 chicken McNuggets on her own? Seriously, wow.

    Finally, I LOVE the bright blue scarf and red jacket together. And I would've never thought to pair leopard print with stripes. You're living proof that going bold can totally work.

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  18. So crazy. I have lots of friends like this. When your young and hanging out all the time, you can't imagine your life without them and one day you look around and realize they've been gone for quite some time. It's weird.

    I love your look Lisa. Thanks for sharing your story!

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  19. I love this outfit! It's bold and cool and fun.

    I've been besties with my BFF since we were ten-- we're almost 22 now. For our ten year friend-iversary, we went to Disney World! We're definitely the goofy kind of friends. We actually re-recorded the whole of the Lord of the Rings films' voicetracks, adding our own...variations on the script. And she's been there for me more than ever this year as I've dealt with the loss of my dad. I couldn't ask for a better friend.

    x Julie

    (psst... I'm having a fun giveaway on my blog! just sayin.')

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  20. Fabulous outfit! I love that blazer! My bestie and I stayed friends through high school and then reconnected after graduate school. But she and I are living different lives and far apart. It's bittersweet.

    http://averysweetblog.com/

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