16 August 2011

You're (Not) Invited

I just started reading I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence by Amy Sedaris last night, and granted I didn't make it far past the intro, but I am hoping for a light fun read. Part of the reason I got it aside from the fact that e-books are far too easy to purchase is that I am striving to become a better hostess myself because I need to work on some things. Like wanting people to actually come over.

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Am I the only person on earth who doesn't enjoy the thought of having friends over at their house? As much as I appreciate the company, my Type A OCD-ness necessitates that if anyone comes over, the house must be immaculate. Must. So that means a full scrub down of even places house guest would never even go to - see how that makes having people over less fun?

Then Type A OCD-ness requires that munchies be made for said guests - which requires cooking and thus preparation. I'm not one of those people who are satisfied with opening up some chips and dip and a bottle of wine and calling it a day - for some reason I've got to make something. Which clocks in a potential shopping trip on top of the prep and cook time and house cleaning time.

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And the last thing that makes me cringe at the idea of having people over? I genuinely can't decorate to save my life, and though our home is fully furnished, it is fully lacking in personality. We've got like two things hanging on the walls and still no rug for the living room (or anywhere else for that matter), and haven't even painted or put up curtains. It is kind of sad how inept at this decorating business I am. The one thing I can do is declutter and keep BF from turning our place into the next episode of Hoarders.

So maybe Ms. Sedaris there can help make me more laidback yet gracious in a way that "it's a good thing" Martha Stewart couldn't. My friends have come to see me, not the house, and enough wine and laughs really negates not having some slaved over good eats. And if nothing else, I can also revert back to my neverfail - I make a terrific guest.

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Top: LE Canvas gingham poplin (worn here before - sim here)
Shorts: Old Navy bermudas (sim herehere)
Belt: F21 brass beaded (sim here)
Necklace: J. Crew mini wildfire (sim here, here in gold-tone)
Bracelet: F21 (worn here before - sim here)
Shoes: Michael Kors hamilton (two whole days in sky-high heels with no incident, new personal record! worn here before - sim peep here, here, yowser here)
Outfit inspired by fshnonmymind

33 comments:

  1. too funny, I'm the same way.... but I do want ppl to come over, but yes, it turns into a huge cleaning, cooking, and random house decor buying binge... glad im not the only one!

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  2. Oh. I'm the same way. I love having my friends over, but it's a vicious cycle....I clean really well for them just to have them dirty it up and then when they all leave I stress out because I have to clean AGAIN. LOL

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  3. I love having people over, but then right before they come I regret it because we have to clean the house from top to bottom (my fiance is just like you - neat freak, OCD), and cook. Then I'm like "what was I thinking?"! LOL.

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  4. Ha, I could have written the same thing! I would loove to be one of those super casually elegant people that can have people over every weekend -- and their house is already immaculate and they have all the making of easy apps. Not me. I dread it b/c it means picking up millions of toys, and full-scale cleaning. Then shopping, then cooking. Exhausting! And yet, every single time I put forth the effort, it's so enjoyable and wonderful, that I can't imagine why I don't do it more often. But then I remember. :)

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  5. I love to entertain, but I am extremely OCD about the house being in order before having people over. There are however two tiers of guests that I have over: 1) good friends where, if I really can't make the house spotless, I don't stress because we're practically family 2) guests where I become a huge ball of stress to make everything PERFECT

    I'm surprised that you think you can't decorate. You are so good at building outfits, accessorizing, using surprising colour combinations that I'll be you could easily be a great decorator.

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  6. I LOVE entertaining - I can't get enough of it! I'm always inviting friends over for dinner and offering someone something to drink. I also really like party planning :) And I like your outfit, too :)

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  7. I hope the book helps! Martha Stewart can be so intimidating. Love your outfit... the colors are wonderful together :)

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  8. LOL I am the SAME way. "Hurry, my family who has seen my house a dozen times is coming over and I need to get these baseboards clean!" In the end, though, you're right, they come to see you and not the house. Still, old habits die hard. I love your fun pink bermuda shorts and heels!

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  9. I do like having people over but I'm like you...everything down to the food and decor has to be perfect. It's quite exhausting and I end up recommending we go to said-friend's house:)

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  10. I'm with you and the previous comments. I have to clean, cook, and decorate in order to feel comfortable to have company over. Yet somehow, I always invite people over and I'm always running around like a crazy person beforehand.
    I guess it's about finding the balance between the OCD and the parties.

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  11. Oh my gosh, I totally love those bright pink shorts! You look fantastic!

    I'm the same way with entertaining, except for the part about cooking because I can't cook. It's pathetic.

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  12. Adorable outfit :) Love the pink shorts!

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  13. I LOVE having people. It kicks my butt into gear to get things done. How do you think I got my house unpacked and decorated so quickly? (My parents were coming!)

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  14. Aww, I inspired your outfit. :) That made my day and you definitely look super cute in those pink shorts.

    Girl, you need to hire an interior decorator (or a friend whose good with that kind of thing to give you ideas to implement) and have yourself a pot luck. That way you only need to clean and maybe make cookies or something instead of the whole shebang.

    I don't like to have people over but that's because I feel like my place is in a never-ending cycle reorganization and decluttering.

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  15. You are NOT alone! I thought I was the only person who had to make sure that the house was immaculate, all the dust has been wiped from every surface visible. I cannot open just a bag of chips. I know EXACTLY what you mean, and after all this, I still love to entertain at my house! After you host a few parties and everyone tells you how great you did, it'll be second nature!

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  16. Really like this outfit. I enjoy having people over to my house. In fact, last christmas I had a big party. It was so fun.

    Method Clothe

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  17. Funny. I always try to go to my friends house! They are super super clean freaks, so it is always nice and clean. I stress so much cleaning before people get here that when they leave, I am so exhausted! But it does force me to clean the house! :)
    Loving the pink shorts. I just ordered some pink capri pants from ASOS. Kinda nervous, kinda excited about them!

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  18. love the gingham shirt on you and it looks really cute with those pink shorts!

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  19. I'm the same way Lisa and I thought I was the only one but it sounds like it's you, me and everyone else!! Lol I love getting together with friends though....at a resturant ;)

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  20. I don't mind entertaining friends and family...but the house has to look neat and tidy! There's a lot of pressure! I leave clutter in the spare rooms and close all the doors..hehe.

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  21. ha i love to entertain but have been afraid to over the last few months since my psychotic dog started methodically destroying our carpet and blinds. (i love that dog though. lucky him.)

    maybe if you just start on the win before your friends get there you wont care that all you have is crackers cheese and wine? ;)

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  22. I love the way you dressed up your shorts - those shoes are fierce!

    You sound like my hubs - he is the OCD of clean when we have peeps over :)

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  23. You had me laughing out loud...I'm just like you...and apparently lots of other folks, too. My biggest concern is the spotlessness of the house. Hence, I certainly don't like having surprised guests...b/c they always show up at the wrong time!

    I love this outfit, Lisa. I really think it's one of my favorites. Those pink shorts...sigh...

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  24. i love the bright pink with the gingham. i prefer to be entertained, but SO loves to entertain.

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  25. When people come over, my husband and I vacuum and try to put things where they're supposed to belong. But we rarely have people over other than our immediate families. It's less pressure that way. We even moved into our coop without having a house-warming party! We're sometimes seen as anti-social but we just don't know how to host anything interesting in our house.

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  26. ah! this gingham print looks so playful against your pink shorts! i'm certain your guests had a TON OF FUN but I understand the anxiety :/

    with love,
    guildedsecret

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  27. We are total opposites I received the hostess gene from my mother the caterer. I love planning and getting stuff ready for guest, but being that way also drives me crazy. I usually ask people several times about the food, music, drinks and if there having a good time. In the end I'm tired and stressed..Ugh! Hostess Gene sucks..lol

    Cute outfit, I like your hot pink capri's!!

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  28. Love this post! I love having people over but I also stress out about cleaning, which is what I should be doing now since my in laws are coming Understand all the sentiments you wrote about, I'm kind of a stress case :)
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  29. I had a bit of a laugh reading this - I am such an introvert, the thought of having guests over makes me break out into a cold sweat and sends my heart rate through the roof! I am not obsessive about the house being just so, but my husband is, so I let him do all the cleaning/organizing/decorating. However, I am totally obsessive about the FOOD, so I go nuts trying to figure out all the dishes to serve. Afterwards, I need a week to recover. And I can't recall if I ever enjoy the actual party, I just think "at least I survived"!!

    Cute outfit - love the pink shorts with the navy gingham, it's very summery and preppy!

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  30. I really love the gingham with the pink shorts. It is such a nice summery look and those shoes, wow, they really punch up the whole look. It is a great combo of casual and chic.

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  31. I love company but hate the prep and stress that goes into getting them there! I love your fun shorts and the gingham top!

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  32. I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one with mixed feelings about entertaining!

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